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Well, it is absurd but I am tending to forget too many things recently. Unfortunately my wife thinks I only forget anything associated with "Her" or our "Marriage". Forgetting our anniversary, her birthday ( well my birthday too), what dress she wore on an evening of celebration a year ago, what was the first dish she cooked for me, when(DATE) we had a tour and what we spoke on those days!
I am tending to loss track of many a things, however she points out that I rarely forget what technique I used in what project in which year and how I did it.
Now, somebody please tell me how to not forget important things like the color of her gown in her friends marriage along with the date of marriage which I think was a year back but she says was two years back!
I badly need a solid trick and tip here. Please.
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Get yourself a camera and take pictures. Or simpler, get a small notebook (paper!) and write down all important events. Or make a website and upload your notes from some mobile device. She will love it.
My totally unromantic advice, of course, would be to avoid the problem entirely and not try to understand some alien's somewhat egocentric concepts of right and wrong.
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OMG. I cannot believe I was writing the almost identical message suggesting he take more pictures.
What the heck, I will leave my post even though you beat me to it.
Soren Madsen
"When you don't know what you're doing it's best to do it quickly" - Jase #DuckDynasty
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Grasshopper.iics wrote: however she points out that I rarely forget what technique I used in what project in which year and how I did it.
To be fair, one is often confronted with a technique for a longer period, and one tries to learn additional things as it is part of the job.
When going on a date, one does not focus on remembering details for later recollection. One enjoys the moment.
(How would she react if you started taking notes, just like in the Office when confronted with a new technique?)
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All good points that make a lot of sense...to us  .
Soren Madsen
"When you don't know what you're doing it's best to do it quickly" - Jase #DuckDynasty
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Absolutely! I mean I love her company and going out with my Mrs Home Minister. I do live a life of high stress and therefore when I (WE) manage to get time, I absolutely forget other things and enjoy the moment. Walk, laugh, and leave worries.
So obviously mind does not concentrate or care to "remember"! Heck. I am failing to explain that it's not that I dont want or care to remember things but I am just not able to.
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Eddy Vluggen wrote: (How would she react if you started taking notes, just like in the Office
when confronted with a new technique?)
That might be a good idea. One can try taking notes and when wife asks, reply "taking notes so that I can answer you after a year when you asked ". 
That may stop wifes to ask such question in future.
CAUTION: though chances of backfiring the idea is there. Try at your own risk 
Thanks,
Milind
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Take more pictures . Well, I kind of mean it as a joke, but it might actually help as well as score you additional relationship points if you follow up on that. If you are on Facebook, post some of the pictures. Order larger hard copies on-line, etc.
I cannot guarantee it will help you out when it comes to things like the color of a dress she wore a year or two ago, but it just might.
Soren Madsen
"When you don't know what you're doing it's best to do it quickly" - Jase #DuckDynasty
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I honestly hope someone comes up with a good answer. I don't have it!
I used to get upset at the number of "current" artists that would be added to the "oldies" station. I would think, "How can this be, they just had a hit.... oh.... that was 20 years ago" And I have a hard time with dress colors too 
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First thought - take lots of pictures, save them, and be sure that they all have date stamps. None of us is getting younger, and remembering stuff will not get easier.
Second thought, and a bit depressing if you dwell upon it - you might not love your dear wife as much as she would like you to. That's her fear, at least, even though we geeks know better. We tend to focus on facts, not emotional vagueness that women thrive upon. The key to domestic tranquility, IMHO, is to set the things that she feels to be important on the same shelf as those topics that are important to you. Yeah, that shelf is going to get rather cluttered with crap that we'd rather not deal with, but that will go away as soon as she learns how to properly dispose of the trash. Good luck, lad... 
Will Rogers never met me.
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Quote: First thought - take lots of pictures, save them, and be sure that they all have date stamps.
Then I have to carry a camera all the time and have a develop a good photo searching algorithm that goes in line with her demand.
Quote: set the things that she feels to be important on the same shelf as those topics that are important to you
I do! But I fail to discover what she feels is important. Women are so caring and unpredictable that one moment it feels a heaven to be with her and the other moment it makes me wonder "whats going on here".
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Gosh, I feel so sorry for you!
Although the inevitable "she remembers everything and he forgets everything" happens in our household too, we share the common view that that's how it is and there isn't much point being upset about it.
Almost, but not quite, entirely unlike... me...
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Tell her that men remember only what they like, ok now duck...
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I sincerely admit that I lack courage to do that! 
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Please let me know if you find a solution for this.
Sincerely,
Rajesh.
"Real men drive manual transmission" - Rajesh.
modified 30-Jan-13 2:45am.
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Stop thinking that you forget things; it's the kiss of death -- a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Everyone does it, e.g. if you think "I can never remember that word", you never do.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Actually I do not think that but my wife reminds me that I do! When you hear a common statement every other day, you start to think, "am I"?
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I can't event understand how it is possible to ... to ... to what again ? 
~RaGE();
I think words like 'destiny' are a way of trying to find order where none exists. - Christian Graus
Do not feed the troll ! - Common proverb
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Grasshopper.iics wrote: I badly need a solid trick and tip here. Please.
Get another wife. Seriously if she's so hooked up on details about what color a dress is someone wore like 10 years ago, there's something wrong.
She probably associates this "forgetting" with the fact you "don't care" which is absolute bullocks. Remember her birthday and maybe your anniversary and forget about the rest. For those dates, phones have calendars you know, so does google, outlook, ...
If she starts to argue: "Men don't so colors, they don't do dresses (they undo them actually ), they don't do breastfeed talks or see the exact same household chores she sees, etc, etc, etc,..."
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If you really loved her, you wouldn't forget...
My advice: Get a new, younger wife - that should keep up the interest for a while...
Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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Beidh ceol, caint agus craic againn - Seán Bán Breathnach
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Da mihi sis crustum Etruscum cum omnibus in eo!
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Just because a thing is new don’t mean that it’s better - Will Rogers, September 4, 1932
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Quote: My advice: Get a new, younger wife - that should keep up the interest for a while...
Well! Well! 
That's exactly what she tells me.
But you know, there are enough good moments in our lives to even have any remote thoughts of that. It is those periodic "You don't care or remember" that is making me feel sad 
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You're married so you no longer need to remember anything. That's what wives do.
Panic, Chaos, Destruction. My work here is done.
Drink. Get drunk. Fall over - P O'H
OK, I will win to day or my name isn't Ethel Crudacre! - DD Ethel Crudacre
I cannot live by bread alone. Bacon and ketchup are needed as well. - Trollslayer
Have a bit more patience with newbies. Of course some of them act dumb - they're often *students*, for heaven's sake - Terry Pratchett
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Thanks. I wanted someone to affirm my thoughts!
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It's all about interest, you remember what you're intersted in.
And you're a quite typical man to not be interested in what colour her dress was in a certain evening. Most men are only interested in what she's not wearing.
So you will have to turn it around to your advantage instead.
She's the one being at loss for not being able to clean a carburettor, build a shed or a program.
People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.
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Quote: And you're a quite typical man to not be interested in what colour her dress was in a certain evening. Most men are only interested in what she's not wearing.
Why should I remember what she wears
try
{
Dress d=Wife.Dress;
return;
}
catch(DressNotFoundException greatEx)
{
Log(greatEx);
}
Sorry, but cant help it. 
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