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So a friend asked me out to watch some local bands last night.
Sure, I'll go.
Didn't feel like going because it required me to leave the house, but I already said yes so let's get it over with.
When we're there, this girl walks up to my friend and apparently they knew each other.
So my friend asks her "how did it go?" (apparently, she just played on stage).
"I was so nervous. I like a bit of attention, but not like this. I'm never doing this again."
So I thought I'd try to be social and chime in, "try a beta blocker next time, it's a small pill and all your nerves will be gone."
I know because I use them when I have to do presentations.
Apparently, they're popular among students taking exams as well.
She looks me dead in the eye and says "I'd rather sniff something, but I've been clean for one and a half month now so I'm not taking anything."
Not the answer I was expecting.
Next time I'll just stand there and say nothing like I usually do
I never said she was a singer
I live on an island with the nickname "the white island" (and not because its inhabitants are mainly white), but I've never known anyone who was on (hard) drugs. I think...
We have a lot of farmers who have sheds in the middle of nowhere, great for drug labs.
The musicians are all hobbyists, so they can't live the drugs, sex and rock n roll lifestyle in weekends and be at work/in school on Monday
Yeah, but no.
When I have to say my name in a group my heartbeat goes to at least 200 bpm.
When I have to tell a bit about myself I forget who I am and what I do.
When I have a presentation about Azure or whatever I do not only forget who I am, but everything I ever knew.
I also start to stutter and sound like a sheep, if I say anything at all.
At school, during a co-presentation, I once hit my knee against a desk because I was shaking so hard I couldn't control my body.
It hurt like hell, and I wasn't even the one doing the talking at the time
It's not just nerves, it's a total shutdown of my brain and a complete meltdown of the rest of my body.
It's hard to talk when your heart is beating like crazy and you forget to breathe
When I have a beta blocker, I talk, make jokes, people listen and I get compliments afterwards.
You can't really practice when people expect you to perform and give a hell of a presentation
It's stupid, I know, but that's just how my body reacts to an audience
Very similar symptoms I know from my body. And what I mean with training, it is not something like do three or four times to solve it. For me it took more than a decade with very small progress in between.
Btw. did you ever check your thyroid function? Ok, in my case it was not the reason (unfortunately, because if it was it, the solution would have been be more easy).
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
I'm also not sure when I react like that.
I had a new job and after two weeks I had to show something to the team.
I already got very nervous during the talk, which was for six coworkers.
When I had a goodbye speech for five coworkers at my last job it was all good.
When I had the same speech a day later for thirty (half of which I didn't know), I cut it short before I collapsed
At another job, for a couple of coworkers, six or seven, that I all knew very well, I had the same problem.
"I had a great... time... and I... uhhh... ... ... ..."
(goddammit, I know all these people!)
"learned... a lot... things..."
(I'VE KNOWN THEM FOR YEARS!)
(OMG SAY SOMETHING, ANYTHING!)
I got nerves when I had to tell my uncle I wanted to quit his company (one on one and he's a relaxed guy so he would never hold it against me).
But during a meeting with a customer, where I had to present Azure to their IT manager and someone else from the IT team, I had no problems whatsoever.
It just makes no sense...
I'm doing pretty good for myself, but I sometimes think that if I were an extravert I'd be making millions by now
I used to be like that and just avoided situations where I had to talk to more than two or three people. But with advancing age, I somehow grew out of it (no idea how), and now I can talk to a very large crowd with hardly any shaking, and my heart tends to stay fairly normal. I wish I had some better advice to offer ...
Many years ago, my mentor at the time told me: "When you have to speak to a large group of people, imagine that you are looking out over a field of cabbages. Then address them like you are talking to a cabbage patch."
I just didn't know how to respond to that and it made things a bit awkward.
I don't think she really appreciated my advice of taking more (legal) drugs
The conversation was pretty much over after that.
My friend and I had a good laugh about it afterwards
They generally take a couple of days to be visible, but I got the "approve" email from Urban Dictionary for
Of flowers, to be stuffed in a vase so the multi-coloured bits are at the top.
I got you some flowers dear - I manranged them in that vase
I've had one of those days: we got up this morning, and found no hot water, so I've had to fix that - turned out it was the immersion heater thermostat (cheap to buy) but whoever built the abortion that is the water cabinet only gave me 16 inches between the top of the hot tank and the bottom of the shelf supporting the cold water tank. And the thermostat is 18 inches, so getting it out was ... um ... fun. Getting the new one in was even more so since I had to be rather more careful with this one.
Arranging Herself's weekly flowers tidily was never going to happen. Manranging was. And did.
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony
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Congratulations on the word! I also had a nasty experience with a household contraption last week. We suddenly found our refrigerator bottom drawer for the freezer compartment was stuck. It turns out over time some stuff in the freezer had fallen out and behind the freezer drawer, preventing its door from closing completely. Moisture got into the freezer and froze the drawer slides solidly in place.
Luckily it was just a matter of cleaning out the freezer compartment, to get the drawer operating again.