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The only const in relation to kids is the change - they differ from one another (and even looks similar you are doomed if try the same approach). They also change over time (sometime several times the same day)...
I have 4 of them and can drive me crazy within 2 seconds they open their eyes...
"The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge". Stephen Hawking, 1942- 2018
Having 3 children, daughter 26, son 22 and son 18, I can confirm that between the ages of 12 and 23 that in their eyes I have become a blithering idiot who has no valid opinion and only lives to torment their lives.
My daughter has fully come out of this and a pleasant mother to my grandson.
My oldest son is starting to come around gradually (He even cleaned his room without being asked last week!)
As for the youngest, he is beginning to realize that moving out would be terrible for him at this time. (He's the son we had to check into a mental health facility for depression a couple of years ago. He seems to be doing better now.)
Government can give you nothing but what it takes from somebody else. A government big enough to give you everything you want is big enough to take everything you've got, including your freedom.-Ezra Taft Benson
You must accept 1 of 2 basic premises: Either we are alone in the universe or we are not alone. Either way, the implications are staggering!-Wernher von Braun
Yes, the dynamics do change. Our "kids" are in the 30s and 40s now. They were OK until the preteen/teen years. Then they morphed into some sort of alien creatures. Then they grew up, entered the real world, and we are closer than I ever imagined. And I was the same way with my parents.
The key is crystal clarity that you offer unconditional love to them as individuals. That the only thing that is required to have that love is that they exist. Good or bad, you will never desert them or disown them. Saying "no", however, is often the best sign of love in a situation. My kids as teens would get so frustrated with me being immovable on certain things, but they understood that, whether I would later be proven right or wrong, I was acting to protect them while they were still minors.
Girls are usually a different dynamic in the implementation. You can talk sternly to boys, and they usually get it. Talk sternly to your little girl, and the tears flow! At first, earnestly, because a girl's feelings and emotions are different and delicate. Then they learn how to use tears as a weapon.
Adapt to the unique character of each child, be patient, and they will eventually return to being human.
Oh, and no matter how strong the urge, do not follow the animal kingdom (which sometimes eats their young) or give them away. If the latter, whoever takes them will just bring them back.