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GeneralHonesty, Tact and Software Developers Pin
honey the codewitch11-Feb-21 3:09
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Let's face it - there's a high percentage of software developers who have great technical skill but whose people skills leave something to be desired.

I'm one of them. I've encountered a lot of others too.

I don't think it's a bad thing.

Especially where it concerns matters of what is possible, and what isn't, and what will work, and what won't the question comes down to "Do you want honest, or nice?" The rest is just in how you deliver it.

So delivery aside, given the situation where it's one or the other:

Many developers would place a premium on honesty.

Many folks with "soft skills" would place a premium on nice.

The people that need the honesty the most - because of their tendency to be unrealistic when it comes to technical matters - is the folks with the soft skills.

The only way out of this double-bind is diplomacy - the art of telling someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip. This is not easy. Sometimes it's not even possible - like - "your {family member} died" and developers often don't have the social skillset to do that consistently.

And sometimes even when I hear developers talk to each other they take things personally. A lot of times probably part of it is due to the emotional investment in the project they are discussing - but other times it's just people expecting "nice" and getting "honest" - other developers do it too.

So I guess we can come off as a bit salty. But you know what? You're going to get the truth.

I think we can all benefit in general from remembering not to take things personally.

And some of us can benefit from practicing a little tact.

None of this is intended as judgment. Just honest observation..
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