You need to create an OledbCommand and then assign it to the DataAdapter, something like this:-
command = new OleDbCommand(
"DELETE * FROM Contacts WHERE ContactID = ?",
con);
parameter = command.Parameters.Add(
"ContactID", OleDbType.Char, 5, "ContactID");
parameter.SourceVersion = DataRowVersion.Original;
dataAdapter.DeleteCommand = command;
Hope this helps