Why not just run a query:
using (SqlConnection con = new SqlConnection(strConnect))
{
con.Open();
using (SqlCommand com = new SqlCommand("SELECT COUNT(*) FROM players WHERE [name]=@AR1 AND lastname=@AR2 AND dob=@AR3", con))
{
com.Parameters.AddWithValue("@AR1", first);
com.Parameters.AddWithValue("@AR2", second);
com.Parameters.AddWithValue("@AR3", third);
if( com.ExecuteScalar > 0)
{
}
}
}