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This is probably the most absurd problem I am facing for over a year now. Being in Prototype and product design, I consistently need to think about the design and code. Earlier it used to be "Sit in front of system till you get result". It could be a day, 2 days or anything. Now I have a 15 months old Son. He prefers my time over his moms and has grown a fondness for books and pictures. I love spending time teaching him and playing with him. But when a problem is unsolved, I am finding myself lost, even now. Playing with kid, thinking about algorithm.
Sometimes it is morning 3 AM to 8 AM that I work in my closed world, but even that schedule is not helping any more. Sort of lost!
You guys are probably the most outstanding programmers on earth in Codeproject. Thought, would shoot up the question to you! Suggest me a solution to balance life
Oh by the way, sorry for this long message. I had to find a place to trash my thoughts
You culd work away from home or make a rule that if you are working you should not be disturbed. Pretty hard to support a family if you lose your job so you have to make it the priority (unless you are wealthy, of course).
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Actually, I run my own consultancy , so loosing a job is not on order
Actually I converted one of my office floor as my apartment after kid was gone. It was tough at the start to squeeze in an Office cum apartment, but I saved about three hours that I would have otherwise be wasting, driving to office from home.
However due to nature of work, I do not always know how I will get a solution or sometimes even worse, what is a solution. So working hours is time which takes to get the result straight.
But yeah. Probably you guys are right. I need to somehow learn to imagine the time that I give to my kid as a "future project"http://s.codeproject.com/script/Forums/Images/smiley_tongue.gif
If you think that's fun now, just wait! It does get a little better when you can ship them off to school for most of the day.
When I started my business I had 3 teenagers. The only solution was to close the door to my office and tell them "Sorry, I'm at work right now." I have always had to treat working at home the same as if I went to an office (without the commute). When it is working hours, it is working hours. And when working hours are over, the door to my office is closed, because working hours are over.
Failure to separate work and family life can only lead to problems, so you need to get that clear now while you still can.
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Focus on your child. After your wife he is the most important person in your life. And believe me, the childhood years just fly by when you spend too much time focussed on other things, until you look round and see he's grown up, and you wonder about all the times you missed.
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Exactly. I agree. My son is now 21 months old, and I also kept trying to find time to get my work done. Then I would see him do something amazing, and I would run to my wife and tell her, 'do you know what he just did?!', all excited. And after telling her, she would say, 'oh, he's been doing that for a couple of weeks now!' That is when I realized that some things are more important than work.
They grow up only once. Don't miss it. You'll regret it.
One of my coworkers always comes to the office to work, but leaves earlier to spend time with his kids, who are 9 and 12. Wednesdays he even leaves at 12, joining only for the meeting and doing some emails, but then does something big the rest of the day, like build cola-Mentos rockets or go to some amusement parks. This is a thing that works for him, but might work for you too. Maybe go to the office for only half of the day to do work, and come home to focus on being a dad. Personally I don't like working from home too often, especially when others are there, just way too many distractions. However this depends on the person. I think the best way to find out would be to just try it for a while and see how it goes.
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I totally agree with Richard MacCutchan. Over the years I've also noticed that spending time with the kids also helps to solve problems in work (not to mention it helps to put them into right perspective ). Don't know if it's because of being more relaxed or the goofy ideas, but that's the way it is.
Another and important thing: I don't know if this translates very well to English but we have a saying that your work or your colleagues won't be coming to visit on your grave every year. Something to think about
I am in same situation just like you and from the same country too
I have kid just turn 11 month; Only sometime work trick for me is to set up kid trolley next to my work desk and give him a dummy keyboard to tap on.. He keep doing it for a while and think that all that happens on TV (Because I use my TV as My monitor) is because of his key strokes..
Try this and would work.
Hard to balance the work and kid but these days you will always remember when your 5 year old kid solve your sql-query or may be PHP bug
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