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It is humor. If someone really thought like that, they wouldn't/shouldn't get married.
All three questions you have are related. There is a different way of thinking and different priorities (in routine life). Now this leads to anticipation of certain activities* that you never thought you would do. After this, you are left with exaggeration and posting fear of marriage and wives on web which then leads to a fun thread to read.
*Like I cannot think myself walking around in super markets buying groceries. I do that online. Mrs. does not like online shopping at all. I can see myself standing in long queues at markets where they open 2 out of 20 counters and people buy things in quantities as if this is the last day to shop.
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But isn't it offensive to the wife?
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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Now who said wives don't go out to have tea with her friends to bitch about what terrible things her husband has done? 
It works both ways.
You can't joke or tell stories about someone you don't have a strong connection with for the fear of breaking it with what you say.
I'm not afraid to laugh about my husband's beer belly with my mates because I know he won't get upset.
And if he goes around telling his mates about my big arse, I'm prepared to laugh that off too. 
Almost, but not quite, entirely unlike... me...
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PaulowniaK wrote: And if he goes around telling his mates about my big arse
For most men that's bragging. 
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For me, that depends. 
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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No. It is just humor. There is no intent to demean someone or to make her sad. You shouldn't take any of that seriously.
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Yeah. I see that as a joke. But as to what I've said, just curious..
If I take that seriously, then this post might be a rant rather than curiosity.
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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It's just bar talk. You know guys get together and have a beer and then reality fades. Mostly no one would want to marry them anyway.
Peter Wasser
"The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, and wiser people so full of doubts." - Bertrand Russell
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0) Experience. Coming up on twenty-two years of it myself.
1) She just doesn't Wang Chung like she used to. 
2) You haven't truly mastered a subject until you've taught it.
She's still the one for me.
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
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PIEBALDconsult wrote: 1) She just doesn't Wang Chung like she used to.
Maybe she no longer likes Wanging your Chung because you've let yourself go a bit?
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I think you have that backward. ![Badger | [badger,badger,badger,badger...]](https://www.codeproject.com/script/Forums/Images/badger.gif)
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
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Hey... whatever floats your boat!! 
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First of all, it's good to see you use the correct numbering system. You really have adapted to life in the lounge.
However, most males will joke about the "loss of freedom" from marriage, but it's a mistake to think that we actually mean it. We joke about a lot of things that we don't mean. It's just part of that Men from Mars thing that women will never truly understand. It's also the same reason that girls who give other girls nicknames will use names like "Happy Samantha" or "Wannabe Bride" (both people I know). Blokes, of course, are more likely to choose nicknames like "Fat Baz" or other names that I really can't use on a KSS forum.
A lot of the regular posters here seem to be happily married, and we genuinely do wish a long and happy marriage to others - even while we joke about it.
I'm normally a great believer in equality but, in this case, this is the real difference. Women will never understand men. Ever. Don't worry about it though, because while we are fascinated and beguiled by women, we haven't got the foggiest about you either. And this is a good thing. This is why we don't pick up on subtle mood swings.
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Pete O'Hanlon wrote: You really have adapted to life in the lounge.
thanks. 
Pete O'Hanlon wrote: Women will never understand men. Ever.
The reason why I ask.
Not that I didn't get the jokes or I took the thread seriously (as to what others pertain), I just ask you all because I know you're the only one who can answer those. And thanks for the response.
Pete O'Hanlon wrote: we haven't got the foggiest about you either
That's fine. Even me, there are times I can't understand some women either. 
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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0. Not afraid, that's just a joke.
1. Don't like is not really the correct wording. Let's say that love and hate are surprisingly close to one another if you're married for a longer period of time .
2. Various things. See 1. but also how to keep doing the manly things we used to do before marriage. One thing women do more often then men, is trying to change the opposite sex...
you are a mystery to us as we are a mystery to you... 
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0. If you're not afraid you're not taking it seriously. It's a big change, you're promising someone she's the only one for the rest of your life. At least I'm taking that seriously.
1. Nagging. I mean, If I say I will do something, I will. No point in reminding me every half a year. Sorry couldn't resist
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I got used to naggers, too. I think my mom inherited a machine-gun-mouth from her ancestors. She always use it whenever possible.
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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0. Because we actually are.
1. Nothing. However we also like other people's wives.
2. Surviving.
-- Carlo The Honest
Veni, vidi, vici.
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CPallini wrote: However we also like other people's wives.
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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CPallini wrote: 1. Nothing. However we also like other people's wives.
And divorcees. 
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
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Veni, vidi, vici.
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It's just tired old stereotypes that people fall back on when they can't think of anything original.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
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Ok, read this whole thread before replying.
0. Some men (and women) and afraid to get married because they have witnessed bad marriages. My wife was 32 when we married; she was VERY cautious because her mother had two bad marriages and she wanted to be sure her's would be fulfilling and last.
1. It is not so much that men don't 'like' their wives, they don't understand them. I can say something to my wife and hear back, "Oh, you mean....". I reply, "That's not what I said..." and repeat my words exactly. Her next reply, "You said EXACTLY this..." and I hear something 90 degrees off of what I said. She heard my words, but interpretting them in a manner I did not mean, but, to her, that is exactly what I said. Then, I go out and chop firewood... stress relief.
2. A survival guide is like seasoned advice. Last night, I was talking to a friend whose wife had a baby 3 weeks ago. She wants to take a week and visit family out of state. His thoughts, "Go, but leave me here. I don't want to go." What she will hear, "I don't like your family and can't be bothered to spend time with them; it is more important to me to avoid them than it is to spend time with you." My advice, tell her how many vacation days you have left this year (5 I think) and ask when she would like him to take them. If he goes out of town, then he will have no time left for the rest of the year - no Thanksgiving time off, no Christmas time off. So, reword what he says and make it HER option.
Does that help?
Tim
P.S. - My wife thinks she can program because she can change formulas in a spreadsheet; I am happy to let her have a toenail in my world and let her think she is swimming with the dolphins.
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Tim Carmichael wrote: She heard my words, but interpreting them in a manner I did not mean, but, to her, that is exactly what I said
Now, I can say, I'm a woman after all. IMO, the reason why WE are like that is because we are used to express ourselves through trivial words, like saying, "I'm fine" though we're not. Saying, "It's nothing" though deep inside, there's something bothering us.
I don't know why are we like this, but in some cases, I can say that if I use "I'm fine" and "It's nothing", I just want to get my man's attention. I want him to push me to tell him what is really bothering me.
Just a glimpse on how a woman's mind works.
Tim Carmichael wrote: reword what he says and make it HER option.
Maybe it applies to some, but for me, it's just a "Yes" or "No". And just give straight answer to my "Why" question.
Tim Carmichael wrote: Does that help?
Yes. Thanks. 
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL.
I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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