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It is only feedback.
This situation is akin to working on code for hours, and then compiling and finding you have some syntax errors. Or some logic bombs that need to be addressed.
If you run away from the computer because it did not do what you wanted/expected, you would fail. But we dig in, find out what happened, and fix it.
In this case, you may never lead at this company again. But it does not sound like you were completely ready. I usually end up leading in a lot of positions as it is my nature to lead. When I have no idea what to do, I gladly follow.
In your case, I would recommend reviewing your skill set at leading. And reviewing the books on management and leading others that you found valuable. I recommend these two books a lot.
- One Minute Manager (my first book on how to manage people, and how NOT to manage people)
- Execution by Larry Bossidy (A book about getting things done)
For me, leading is about:
- People
- Environment
- Goals
People always come first. Goals often come from outside, and the environment is all you can control. Create the right environment that encourages, rewards and drives the people (happily) towards the goals...
With that said. I feel you have to EARN a leadership position.
Don't just look for mentors... Become a mentor! I always take the time to mentor others,
it makes me better. It reminds me where people are at, and to keep people first.
Good Luck!
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I wouldn't give up on your goal, but I would take some time to watch others that are successful in that leadership role and understand where you went wrong. You won't get a second chance under that supervisor, so if you decide to pursue your leadership goal, it's time to move on. Besides, you might end up working for someone who is interested in mentoring you into the position.
We can program with only 1's, but if all you've got are zeros, you've got nothing.
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I always spend time in reflection when I am demoted or let go. (Yeah, it happens over a long career). It is feedback on my performance that cannot be denied. I look for root causes. Guess it's the geek in me. You're doing well to take a little time out to think.
There are senior managers who manage by wishing. They put a line manager in charge of a team and expect that team to perform. If they expect performance to a fixed deadline and don't want to hear about scope-creep, discovered work, etc., they are managing by wish. If the line manager is not in a position to grant their wishes, they replace them, because you have to kiss a whole lot of frogs if you expect one to magically turn into a prince.
In my darker days, I refer to this as the "Darth Vader School of Management" after the way Mr Vader promotes his admirals, by crushing the windpipe of the former admiral and casting his lifeless body aside, then pointing a gauntleted hand at another and saying "Congratulations on your promotion...Admiral".
We learn more by failure than by success. You can probably think of things you should have done differently. Do these things next time. One additional question to ask yourself is, were you happy in your leadership role? If you were, then it's worth trying to get another lead role. If not, then why are you wasting your time? You escaaped. Celebrate.
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Great way to look at it. Yes, I did escape and in a sense I am celebrating. Glad it's not just me who uses his geekyness to analyze the outcome and to do things differently. Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting something different to happen. There are a few things that I would like to do differently next time if I have the opportunity.
I appreciate your outlook and I must say your Darth Vader analogy sometimes feels true. Leading by fear is not something I aspire to be. Not sure if you have seen IMDB: Dawn of the Planet of the Apes[^] movie. Just in case you have not one thing I most enjoyed about the movie was the leadership role of Caesar (Andy Serkis) in comparision to Dreyfus (Gary Oldman). I guess that's what I would consider an ideal leader to be, but it's just a movie.
Quote: We learn more by failure than by success.
You're abosutely right pleasure and pain are great motivators.
Thanks for giving me more food for thought. Appreciate the words of encouragement and your perspective.
"Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul."
-Douglas MacArthur
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Hello Clark Kent123, Im sorry to hear about that...
Any way you should be happy for what you have acomplished.
Every fall is an opportunity to learn and an opportunity for personal grow, if you learn from your mistakes, you will be a better person for your next job!
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Thanks for the words of encouragement.
Albert Enstein once said that a person who has never failed has never tried. Yes, I did try and I learned so much from this experience. Well, here is to the future of more tries and hopefully less failures. 
Thanks!
"Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul."
-Douglas MacArthur
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Leadership requires that you learn from your successes and failures. Failures definitely hurt, but know that everyone fails.
Here are some resources that I hope you will find useful:
A great blog article on different levels of maturity in software development:
http://mattbriggs.net/blog/2015/06/01/the-role-of-a-senior-developer/
A great book on technical team dynamics:
http://www.amazon.com/Team-Geek-Software-Developers-Working/dp/1449302440
Your leaders are looking to you to as a force-multiplier. They need leaders who can get stuff done for them. If you are taking up more of their time than it takes them to accomplish the work themselves then you are a liability rather than an asset. If you need more mentoring time than your boss can afford, seek out other sources such as meetups and user groups. Try to look through your boss's eyes and make his life easier rather than more difficult.
Cheers.
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Well, it's hard to read, but there's a post from Michael O. Church, in which he explains why it's not good to think about that mentor you mentioned, there are some inconvenient truths in it, but it changed my vision completely, so I think it'll be worth for you to read it.
The post is here [^]
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Sometimes small problems look like serious. Patience helps to find out the root of the problem, whether it is deep or shallow!
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That's why it's called Bios.
There are times it can send you into the Biosphere. 
modified 15-Jun-15 8:54am.
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Ron Anders wrote: it's call Bios
Bullsh*t is our system
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If I had an adult beverage every time something went wrong programming, I wouldn't have a liver! I would have to change my name to Naggy.
Hogan
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Shhhhh... I think i'll be able to nab some gin tonight.
Charlie Gilley
<italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape...
"Where liberty dwells, there is my country." B. Franklin, 1783
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
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Laurel and Hardy.
Laurel - Evergreen
Hardy - Evergreen
peculiar - funny
pear, perhaps - pair
funny pair - Laurel and Hardy
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You do realise you're going straight to crossword Hell, right?
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Oh - very good!
I didn't even get close to that one... 
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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Its seen more than we have here in the UK, I can honestly say what is the Sun? Does it even exist any more?
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it doesn't, these days we hang a huge lightbulb in the atmosphere 
#region(start signature)
Life's like a nose, you've got to get out of it whats in it!
#endregion
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Here in the safeast, the sky is cloudless and it's warming up nicely. About bally time.
veni bibi saltavi
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Pretty good in the zouthwezt, too!
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No summer this year for us.. and climate change isn't real either! 
How do you know so much about swallows? Well, you have to know these things when you're a king, you know.
modified 31-Aug-21 21:01pm.
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whenever I read about this I think about Kerbal Space Program.
Why did I loose control over my unmanned probe? Crap forgot to add solar cells.
Successful mission to faraway planetary body, just need to land back on Kerbal... and I forgot the parachute.
Miscalculated fuel need... and now my manned shuttle is in a stable orbit around the sun with no way of getting back.
Something distracts you while doing a burn... and now that rocket is on trajectory to leave the solar system.
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