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What? You mean it isn't okay to fight back and put the snots in their place? Someone needs to go back in time and inform my parents!
We should teach kids that it is okay to stand up and fight back against those trying to push them down. If you get knocked into the dirt, stand up and try again.
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As escalation rather than resolution is the usual outcome of merely trading violence for violence, yes, I certainly mean that. There is nothing to suggest in the history of any conflict from playground to battleground that giving anyone their own back or inflicting physical punishments on them is a long term solution and no professionals would even so much as suggest such barbarian responses these days. There is, as they say, a simple solution to every complex problem - and it's wrong!!
In any event, bullying comes very rarely in the form of physical threat or assault any more. Bullying has reached a whole new level of sophistication in the digital age and solutions involving violence, which were never the best anyway, are now simply outdated and impotent.
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Member 9082365 wrote: There is nothing to suggest in the history of any conflict from playground to battleground that giving anyone their own back or inflicting physical punishments on them is a long term solution
It seems to have worked pretty well in WWII. Germany and Japan have yet to start another war... 
The United States invariably does the right thing, after having exhausted every other alternative. -Winston Churchill
America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between. -Oscar Wilde
Wow, even the French showed a little more spine than that before they got their sh*t pushed in.[^] -Colin Mullikin
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On the contrary. Germany is the perfect example of a bully that's abandoned crude violence for a far more sophisticated form of intimidation. Just ask the Greeks!
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Member 9082365 wrote: Bullying has reached a whole new level of sophistication in the digital age and solutions involving violence, which were never the best anyway, are now simply outdated and impotent.
fite me irl!
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Not possible, you don't have a name anymore 
Bastard Programmer from Hell 
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Member 9082365 wrote: There is nothing to suggest in the history of any conflict from playground to battleground that giving anyone their own back or inflicting physical punishments on them is a long term solution and no professionals would even so much as suggest such barbarian responses these days.
That is why the world is now filled with Poo Pushers where all of men are now getting depressed and needing to go have a good talk with someone about their feelings.
Michael Martin
Australia
"I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible."
- Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004
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Michael Martin wrote: no professionals would even so much as suggest such barbarian responses these days.
Could you define what you mean by 'professional' because I hear that word used a lot when someone is trying to make a point through emotion rather than reason. Also It smells very much like 'no true Scotsman' in my opinion.
For what it's worth my opinion is that violence can take all sorts of forms whether it be physical or psychological. Sacking a person involves a certain amount of violence as it is doing to someone something they don't want done to them.
So I don't buy the physical violence being more barbaric than psychological violence argument - that is pure sophistry.
On the topic of school yard bullies - a fast appropriate response has always worked in my experience, it is the speed that counts as it conditions the bully to understand that their actions have consequences(now you have to use your intelligence to figure out what 'appropriate' means as it will vary in each situation).
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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No worries Guy, agree with your answer.
When just looking at the email reply wondered how you attributed any of the original quotes to me. Now seeing the post I see it was accidently replied to my repsonse and not the post you wanted.
Michael Martin
Australia
"I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible."
- Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004
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Member 9082365 wrote: no professionals would even so much as suggest such barbarian responses these days.
That might explain their "success" 
They're focussing on unwanted behaviour. I'd say that the behaviour is not random.
Bastard Programmer from Hell 
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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Member 9082365 wrote: no professionals would even so much as suggest such barbarian responses these days
Could you define what you mean by 'professional' because I hear that word used a lot when someone is trying to make a point through emotion rather than reason. Also It smells very much like 'no true Scotsman' in my opinion.
For what it's worth my opinion is that violence can take all sorts of forms whether it be physical or psychological. Sacking a person involves a certain amount of violence as it is doing to someone something they don't want done to them.
So I don't buy the physical violence being more barbaric than psychological violence argument - that is pure sophistry.
On the topic of school yard bullies - a fast appropriate response has always worked in my experience, it is the speed that counts as it conditions the bully to understand that their actions have consequences(now you have to use your intelligence to figure out what 'appropriate' means as it will vary in each situation).
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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I wasn't proposing that psychological violence is in any way less damaging than physical. Perhaps 'barbarian' was a poor choice of word at that point.
As to 'professional', I simply meant those with specialist training in the management of bullying of any sort. I think it's a more than fair representation of the consensus of opinion amongst teachers, social workers, psychologists etc. (amongst whom I have walked lest it be considered that I have no experience here) that hitting back, whether immediately or at some remove (punishments etc.) forms no part of a rational strategy for tackling bullying be it physical or psychological intimidation.
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More than that, we should teach kids to stick together and fight for what's right. There's too much individualism these days..
How do you know so much about swallows? Well, you have to know these things when you're a king, you know.
modified 31-Aug-21 21:01pm.
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Except, at times, this creates Mob Mentality.
The majority is not always right. Maybe not right even half the time.
The best balance is to be balanced.
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Right is whatever the majority say right is.. logically if you disagree with that then you're in the minority.
The alternative is what we have in Europe right now - everyone keeps their heads down, no matter how wrong something is. They might mumble a few disapproving sounds if they're brave enough, but nobody actually does anything to put things right..
Eventually somebody has to take a stand, it's either your side or theirs and what we choose to do (or not do) ultimately shapes the society we live in 
How do you know so much about swallows? Well, you have to know these things when you're a king, you know.
modified 31-Aug-21 21:01pm.
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Having been there; it is rather effective.
Someone who is afraid you smash their head in with the first available chair will think twice about making a remark. Would you bully a psychopath? 
Bastard Programmer from Hell
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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Eddy Vluggen wrote: Would you bully a psychopath?
As you can do it remotely and anonymously employing social media, email, texting etc., why not? You don't need to lay a finger on anyone to hound them to self-harm or suicide. Anyone who identifies themselves as likely to crack a chair over your head will these days effectively be marking themselves as a target rather than asserting their authority.
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Member 9082365 wrote: As you can do it remotely and anonymously employing social media, email, texting etc., why not?
Most of them gang up to find anonimity, but it will not be random strangers. You'll have a good idea who's involved.
Member 9082365 wrote: Anyone who identifies themselves as likely to crack a chair over your head will these days effectively be marking themselves as a target rather than asserting their authority.
Yes, that's what kids are told. And they should go complain to the teacher, and not hit back. Now that is asking for more - it will be showing the group that the individual cannot defend itself. If a prior target starts to stand up, then yes, the new position in the group will be challenged. Or to quote a similar idea from a movie;
"Knocking him down won the first fight. I wanted to win all the next ones, too. So they'd leave me alone."
Bastard Programmer from Hell
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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The problem here is that the targets of bullying are not chosen at random. They have already demonstrated that in some area of their life they are not able to defend themselves. That's what I mean about escalation. In order to hit back in a purely physical sense, for example, a victim will need to start an arms race. They will either have to tool up, gang up, or find a champion (my Dad's bigger than your Dad).
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Member 9082365 wrote: The problem here is that the targets of bullying are not chosen at random.
How would it make stuff easier if they were? I do not see the lack of randomness as a problem, it is merely an observation.
Also seems to be that it is always the weakest individual from the group that is selected. Could it be animal behaviour with an evolutionary purpose, working against us?
Member 9082365 wrote: a victim will need to start an arms race
That is what I recommend, yes. If the group singles you out because you are perceived as the weakest, you change the perception.
Member 9082365 wrote: They will either have to tool up, gang up, or find a champion (my Dad's bigger
than your Dad).
There's more options, like changing group.
Tooling up is a bad idea, finding a champion is even worse. If you need someones protection just to be in the group, you're actually affirming that you are an easy target.
Grouping up works, in multiple ways; not only did you change from a hostile group to one that isn't, it is also a deterrence. Have them take self-defense classes; that way one is prepared for the drunk grown bully in the store that suddenly draws a knife.
Bastard Programmer from Hell
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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Hi All,
Had some one give me a 1 on article I wrote, fair enough he did not like it. I can live with that, the comment though "Does Not Work" makes me think he just down loaded the source and compiled it and tried to run it with out reading the text. Does this happen often to others as this would appear to be the second person who has tried to run the code with out reading the article.
Glenn
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glennPattonBackInThePUB wrote: Does this happen often
Yes. Nuff said!
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Oh yes, it happens. More than you'd probably think.
Even in QA, you can tell somebody how to do basic SQL:
SELECT * FROM MyTable
And you get a comment that it doesn't work. *There is an error "Invalid object name 'MyTable'"*
I think there are far, far too many students who don't want to learn this stuff and assume that whatever they find must do exactly what they want without modification at all. And get upset when it doesn't... 
I'll balance the downvote in a moment.
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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