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I have an outlook.com account that's essentially a spam dump for messages from microsoft (I sometimes use it to log in to my laptop, but usually use a local ID).
I dread to think how many spam messages it's received. I'll log in and indiscriminately delete everything, just to make sure they don't close it.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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*Paloma Faith
After 10 years of being a happy family - today I become a part-time Father. This is f***ing hard.
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I was lucky that my first marriage broke up when my kids were (almost) adults. But I do have some idea of how painful this must be for you. ![Rose | [Rose]](https://codeproject.global.ssl.fastly.net/script/Forums/Images/rose.gif)
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Thanks really appreciate it Richard.
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My brother divorced and had hard time too, but if it comforts you, he managed to do it so successfully, that at age 18 (when she got the right) his daughter choose to live with him instead of the mother...
So without fighting and with a few days (hours) a week you still will be able to manage a good relation - all you have to do is love the kid(s)...
Skipper: We'll fix it.
Alex: Fix it? How you gonna fix this?
Skipper: Grit, spit and a whole lotta duct tape.
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Thanks.
Kornfeld Eliyahu Peter wrote: , that at age 18
That's 12 long years away. 
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Changes that big take it out of you, but just remember that it's only change, meaning that things may be different, from now, but you'll soon fall into a new stride.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Thanks Mark and I do hope so.
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Your journey to your next life begins here, now. Your (perhaps unexpected) companions, grief, anger, regret, loneliness, uncertainty, and bitterness, will stay with you as long as you need them: don't try and make them leave before they are ready.
One true friend, perhaps from outside your family circle, who you can pour your heart out to as you need to, can make all the difference in the world.
... with empathy from one who has been through it more than once ...
bill
«There is a spectrum, from "clearly desirable behaviour," to "possibly dodgy behavior that still makes some sense," to "clearly undesirable behavior." We try to make the latter into warnings or, better, errors. But stuff that is in the middle category you don’t want to restrict unless there is a clear way to work around it.» Eric Lippert, May 14, 2008
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No idea of how much this must hurt but hard times are not lasting forever, just love your kids, enjoy your time with them and when they'll be 18 they will be able to visit you whenever they want.
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PompeyThree wrote: After 10 years of being a happy family - today I become a part-time Father.
How is it that a happy family leads to divorce? 
Marc
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Marc Clifton wrote: How is it that a happy family leads to divorce?
Don't want to go into details - and to put ten years of details in here would take about...10 years. But trust me it can.
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No idea how difficult this must be for you
Having been through some life changing experiences myself recently the one thing that makes a big difference is talking with friends, as well as with other family members(my sister and father in my case), regularly whether by skype or meeting them .
It can help also to have professional counselling, there are charities that provide counselling at a very low cost.
Things do change and improve - wishing you all the best.
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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Thanks guy .. really appreciate it.
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modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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I can only imagine how it is to have your family breaking apart. Or actually I can't.
But you have my empathy.
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Sorry to hear this news. Keep you chin up. It will get easier as time goes by, if you let it.
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Meh! What doesn't kill you makes you wish it had! You can survive divorce. Just see how totally normal, unbitter, and balanced I've become in the past 16 years of mind sapping, gut wrenching, miserable loneli ... oh! 
I am not a number. I am a ... no, wait!
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PompeyThree wrote: part-time Father
That must hurt 
Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have. -Anon
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I too have been through this. And I appreciate how hard this can be.
I hope that one day your children (?) will appreciate you and reach out. I still wait for such from my own children (all adult now), but I have also moved on with my life. It is enough for now that they know that you are there, when they are ready to find you.
In the meantime I am able to see one of my daughters has become a mother with a beautiful baby boy (me a grandfather, who would have thought...). I have reached out to her, so I hope that one day she will do so as well...
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I know the feeling. If you didn't have a marriage/family counselor get one; mine was invaluable to me.
Don't become the a**hole divorced dad. Spend as much time as you can with your kids. Lose yourself with them. In my case, my youngest was a teen, my oldest in her twenties, who has a daughter. In many ways, that granddaughter saved my life. Spending time with her, with her unconditional love, helped me beyond words.
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Good morning to you!
Skipper: We'll fix it.
Alex: Fix it? How you gonna fix this?
Skipper: Grit, spit and a whole lotta duct tape.
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Wake up in the wrong bed, did we? 
Anything that is unrelated to elephants is irrelephant
Anonymous
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The problem with quotes on the internet is that you can never tell if they're genuine
Winston Churchill, 1944
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I'd just like a chance to prove that money can't make me happy.
Me, all the time
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So did I.
I was next to the wife... 
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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