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Nitin Sawant wrote: Even when I go for interview at random company some people wearing black clothes come and do sledging.
Don't go to interviews when it is snowing. This should prevent sledging.
If you resigned - and that's generally a silly thing to do if you don't have a job lined up - and the old company employees are following you around and bad mouthing you then you must have missed out a lot of detail in that description of what happened. Once you are out of there, most people just count it as a win to them - for them to continue after that you have clearly really annoyed someone!
Think about it: the chances are that you are imagining a lot of this - how would employees of "Company A" know you have an interview at "Company B"?
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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There is no snowing in my country
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The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
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Then what are they sledging on? It doesn't work on sand - there is too much friction - and the sledge tends to sink on water.
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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While I wouldn't say imagining I'd go with inflating/misinterpreting. My wife tend to do this a lot. She reads in too much focuses on the wrong thing etc. She see so much drama and intrigue and yadda yadda where I don't see anything and she tends to get hung up on those things. She gets stressed and finds it difficult to progress when I'm here questioning how can I do so good while being ignorant?
OP sorry I can't come with any advice than maybe to try and just let things go and maybe focus on communication skills and getting a good read on the social environment. I'm not going to say you imagine things but odds are that you might read a bit more in to hit than there is, maybe. Good luck.
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You know, in most countries, that kind of crap usually doesn't happen. There might be some friendly humor when you're new, but certainly not obscene comments.
Perhaps you should think about whether you're happy with the culture of your country.
Marc
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I assume you are from India. And I am little surprised you had to go through this. It seems some pages of the incident is missing.
Nitin Sawant wrote: First random co-workers passed obscene comments which I ignored as I was new joinee,
Define Obscene? I am sure it was some humor or jokes which you don't like.
Nitin Sawant wrote: After that I'm being ostracized at workplace - going solo for lunch, snacks, coffee etc.
Are they deliberately avoiding you or they assume you are a loner. Did you make any attempt to join them? Lets say made an initiative to forge some small talk.
Nitin Sawant wrote: Again I ignored it, I felt tremendous mental trauma and somehow I completed 1 yrs at the organization as it is one of the top IT company.
If this you claim is correct that its the top IT company, what did you do to address this issue. Sid you talk with your lead or manager ???
Nitin Sawant wrote: Now I resigned and random co-workers are defaming me.
what does defaming means? you have resigned and then who are these co-workers?
Nitin Sawant wrote: Even when I go for interview at random company some people wearing black clothes come and do sledging.
This is total BS. Its hard to believe that people are making effort to track you and make your life hard.
cheers,
Super
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Too much of good is bad,mix some evil in it
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I'm not sure whether Asperger is a western world phenomenon or world-wide, but it COULD sound like the OP has got a touch of that. That could explain a lot of things actually...
Anything that is unrelated to elephants is irrelephant Anonymous
- The problem with quotes on the internet is that you can never tell if they're genuine Winston Churchill, 1944
- I'd just like a chance to prove that money can't make me happy. Me, all the time
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Having Asperger & Osctracized are totally different
Being Asperger: Person avoiding the group
Being Ostracized: Group purposefully or unknowingly avoiding a person
asperger may have developed after being ostracized
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The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
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Like most Indians I've met, I think you're too f*ckin sensitive.
Cowboy up. Retreating is for pussies.
Now that I've given you the best advice I can give, tell us the WHOLE story.
Do you bathe regularly (and I not talking about swishing around in the Ganges river for a couple of minutes)?
Do you have inconveniently positioned facial features?
Does your code suck balls?
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
- You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
- When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote: Do you bathe regularly (and I not talking about swishing around in the Ganges river for a couple of minutes)?
Is this not kind of racist? I don't get the context .
John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote: Does your code suck balls?
cheers,
Super
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Too much of good is bad,mix some evil in it
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re: bathing
that is not racist for elephanting sake! It might stereotyping a culture but it's not racist.
Charlie Gilley
<italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape...
"Where liberty dwells, there is my country." B. Franklin, 1783
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
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Yeah, everyone that feels slighted and claims racism is probably in the middle of looking for a "safe place".
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
- You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
- When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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For some reason every time one of them goes on ranting about safe spaces I hear Governor Wallace thundering from the podium: "In the name of the greatest people that have ever trod this earth, I draw the line in the dust and toss the gauntlet before the feet of tyranny, and I say safe spaces now, safe spaces tomorrow, safe spaces forever."
Did you ever see history portrayed as an old man with a wise brow and pulseless heart, waging all things in the balance of reason?
Is not rather the genius of history like an eternal, imploring maiden, full of fire, with a burning heart and flaming soul, humanly warm and humanly beautiful?
--Zachris Topelius
Training a telescope on one’s own belly button will only reveal lint. You like that? You go right on staring at it. I prefer looking at galaxies.
-- Sarah Hoyt
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It's a rather offensive stereotype but unfortunately something all brown people (including American citizens) have to live with. I don't think people who say that are being intentionally racist. Nor do I think they actually believe that all Indians avoid showers and smell bad. It's sorta like how people joke about Americans all being obese or how the Irish love portraying themselves as alcoholics. Mostly meant in humor
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I was just going to say "Hire JSOP for a week", but it appears he is giving his consulting time for free.
Sledging is not the same as sleighing. In fact, I have no idea what sledging is, perhaps OP can explain the term?
Next, how do they follow you around to interviews? That borders an asking for a knuckle sandwich - they're taking away the ability to feed your family.
Charlie Gilley
<italic>Stuck in a dysfunctional matrix from which I must escape...
"Where liberty dwells, there is my country." B. Franklin, 1783
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
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charlieg wrote: I have no idea what sledging is, perhaps OP can explain the term? It's a common cricket term where a player looks to make another player screw up by abusing them verbally and mentally.
This space for rent
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A cricket term ain't exactly "well known" in the U.S.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
- You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
- When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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That's why I was happy to explain it.
This space for rent
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Yes, I can see that could be a bit of a sticky wicket.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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I personally try to say away from anything sticky that I didn't make sticky myself...
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
- You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
- When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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That's fine, as long as there's no ball tampering -- we wouldn't want to get stuck in that kind of cabbage patch; it's a situation where playing dibbly-dobbly is probably preferable.
Um, yes, I am speaking English...
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Every human being has emotions and is sensitive...
When you see Tom Hanks crying in the movie Cast Away,
you will say
Retreating is for pussies??
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Nitin Sawant wrote: sober introvert As opposed to a drunken introvert? I know about drunken introverts, the drummer in my band is one.
Nitin Sawant wrote: people wearing black clothes I had an interview like that once, only it wasn't for a job. But I did tell them about some lizard people I met in New Mexico. They weren't too rude though and I never saw them again after that.
Seriously though, have you considered that you may be overreacting somewhat. You may be under the misguided impression that you garner more attention than what other people really do for someone they barely know.
It was broke, so I fixed it.
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Namaste, Sri Nitin (or Vannakkam, or Namaskaram, if you wish),
I'm sorry your post is being used as an excuse to make racist slurs on India by our resident bigot(s) !
Until you got to the part about "people wearing black clothes," I was following you, but, that part makes me wonder if this post is a joke. If you really are experiencing defamation by "people in black" showing up at "random" job interviews, then, I think you need psychiatric help. However, you've been on CodeProject for nine years, and have published one article, which suggests to me you may be (at least partly) serious, here.
But, here's a question (assuming you're not joking): when you are at one of these interviews, do the people at the company see the "people in black" ?
Sounds like you became a scapegoat at your one-year job, but one would need to know much more than that about what happened to make any reasonable hypothesis.
People in groups take on "roles," and, typically, there is no "equilibrium of social justice;" certain individuals will get much more attention, and social power, than others; some individuals may become "rejection stars," shunned for whatever reasons. The greater the stress and conflict in the group, the more roles tend to be "pushed" toward extremes of behavior, and perception. Of course, individual traits and personality styles come into play here, as well as basic human drives for power and dominance.
Let me know how you are doing, and, if you are not joking, I'll send you a message that you can reply to with a private e-mail address, if you wish some counselling (I am, formerly, an accredited psychiatric social worker).
best wishes, Bill
«There is a spectrum, from "clearly desirable behaviour," to "possibly dodgy behavior that still makes some sense," to "clearly undesirable behavior." We try to make the latter into warnings or, better, errors. But stuff that is in the middle category you don’t want to restrict unless there is a clear way to work around it.» Eric Lippert, May 14, 2008
modified 16-Sep-16 11:40am.
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BillWoodruff wrote: People in groups take on "roles," and, typically, there is no "equilibrium of social justice;" certain individuals will get much more attention, and social power, than others; some individuals may become "rejection stars," shunned for whatever reasons
Tell me about it. Although, I think people are generally just afraid of me. It might be the intense wild-eyed stares I give when they say something absurd/stupid, or maybe the fact that at the outset of every meeting, I lay a pistol on the table. Who knows... Could be anything...
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
- You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
- When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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