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While it is definitely terrible to lose two Grandparents so closely to each other, I have to agree that there is a certain sort of beauty to it. Your Grandfather didn't have to live without her, and with Alzheimer's... Having to experience that loss time and time again would be just... Unconscionable...
I hope things go well for your Father. Cancer has claimed too many people in your life already (and even one is too many!)
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Get me coffee and no one gets hurt!
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Best wishes to your father.
About 15 years ago doctors told my dad that they thought he had pancreatic cancer based a CT scan, so they scheduled a surgery to biopsy his pancreas. While he was opened up, the surgeon noticed a small tumor (later identified as a malignancy) on his stomach, which he removed with ample margin so further treatment was deemed uneccesary, early detection is indeed a wonderful thing. His pancreas biopsy came back negative, at 85 he's still as spry as they come.
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment
"Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst
"I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
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A few weeks ago my wife had fast growing a lump removed from her thyroid. Thankfully benign. But just 16 months after losing my Dad to cancer, 7 months after losing my Aunt to cancer, and with her Dad in chemo, it was not a fun filled week.
Just to top it off I've also been defeated by my own code! First time I've ever had to post a question here. New territory indeed.
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Thanks for replying, and best wishes for your family!
MidwestLimey wrote: Just to top it off I've also been defeated by my own code!
Sounds intriguing, I'll have to check it out!
"Go forth into the source" - Neal Morse
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kmoorevs wrote: I think it's a beautiful story. It is. Thanks for sharing it.
kmoorevs wrote: there's one other thing... Best wishes
Bastard Programmer from Hell
If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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And, you are still here, able to create a reality that honors those who have gone.
«The truth is a snare: you cannot have it, without being caught. You cannot have the truth in such a way that you catch it, but only in such a way that it catches you.» Soren Kierkegaard
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Sounds familiar. Back in the early fall of 1998 my mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor. A month later she couldn't speak, write or understand what she heard or read. A biopsy removed enough tumor to temporarily give her back her language skills but also proved the tumor malignant. Radiation treatments had no effect. By late January (just after her 60th birthday) she lapsed into a coma and died.
My 64 year old father handled her death stoically (they'd been married over 40 years) and we held her services a few days later. 5 days after she died while I was at work I got a call - my father had laid down for a late morning nap and never woke up. Coroner said he died of a broken heart.
Still brings a tear to my eye if I dwell on it.
My own lovely bride is a 3 year (so far) breast cancer survivor.
CANCER SUCKS!!!
There are two types of people in this world: those that pronounce GIF with a soft G, and those who do not deserve to speak words, ever.
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Get me coffee and no one gets hurt!
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I have lost a few people over the years: does not get easier. Lost my parents at the end of 2015. Dad first, mum 10 weeks later.
Sad.
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Cancer's a [REDACTED].
I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer last year. His 60th birthday would have been on the 12th of this month.
What do you get when you cross a joke with a rhetorical question?
The metaphorical solid rear-end expulsions have impacted the metaphorical motorized bladed rotating air movement mechanism.
Do questions with multiple question marks annoy you???
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kmoorevs wrote: I've only shared this because I think it's a beautiful story. It would have been far sadder for him to have to realize the loss over and over.
This is what happened to my grandfather. I'll always remember when we were at the funeral home, and my grandfather asked my mom, "where's you mother, didn't she want to come?"
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I have lost so many people to cancer, some closer than others. And have had two biopsies myself (hoping that 3 ain't a fix!). I am so pleased that your Dad has had an early diagnosis, and sincerely hope that all ends up ok.
On a positive note I socialise with, or have worked with, survivors of cancer - they all had early diagnoses and the treatments worked because of that. Positive thoughts.
Another thought - I don't send Christmas cards, instead, in lieu of spending it on cards, we donate a sum of money to Cancer Research (in my case UK but there are equivalents in many countries) ... a fixed sum for everyone that my immediate family has lost. To be honest, it's getting expensive these days. But I would rather pay out that way than waste money on commercialism. And it's working ... there are as many survivors now as there are deaths. Research will work!
For the others that may read this - I encourage you all to donate in some way, small or large, to research into Cancer. #cancersucks (that was the polite one)
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Thank You for the words of encouragement! Great idea about the donations!
"Go forth into the source" - Neal Morse
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Don't apologise, just stand up tall and say proudly "Feck you Cancer! Feck You! And feck all your forms!"
veni bibi saltavi
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Speaking as a granfather, I think that dying that close to one another saves a lot of pain. I know a number of widows and widowers, and the loss of their partners weighs heavily on them.
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Do jokes about unemployed people just not work?
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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I guess it's a kinda payless business
Rules for the FOSW ![ ^]
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That was cheap!
Life is too shor
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You should just lay off those people, they didn't do anything to you!
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment
"Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst
"I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
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jeron1 wrote: they didn't do anything to you!
They also didn't do anything FOR him!
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You know what they say about workers - "Lay off today, resume tomorrow".
/ravi
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Some workers have the patience of Job.
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment
"Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst
"I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
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But too much patience can be an occupational hazard.
/ravi
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That would not be kOSHA.
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment
"Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst
"I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
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