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Whenever I see someone whose strong suit is: "I'm going to be the first one to say 'f**k you,' and enact the role of the 'dangerous outsider' so you won't even think of messin' with me ..."
I think: there's a wounded child in there, somewhere, desperately afraid of the vulnerability they are busy concealing with so much effort.
In my experience as a therapist, for most men that has to do with the relationship with the father, and the "primal wound" that the father inflicts, perhaps as a consequence of our biologically driven social dynamic which requires "discontinuities" to propel the now-becoming-adult male out from the nuclear family matrix to become ... individuated.
Is the role of "dangerous outsider" bad ? The founder of the school of group psychotherapy I trained in, psychodrama, J. L. Moreno, believed that all roles have a place, utility, social value, and that the purpose of his therapeutic system was to enable people to have the freedom to play the roles they choose to play with enthusiasm and spontaneity, and to broaden the roles that people could play. Another key goal is the development of empathy, and the ability to "see into" the roles other people play, and what, beyond those roles, is their deeper hearts' concerns .
It is probably more correct to say that psychodrama is corrective social education in a group setting than a "psychotherapy;" and, it completely different from the classic psychoanalaytic schools, Freudian, Jungian, Adlerian, etc., using technques from (in our western tradition) "theater:" enactment, role-reversal, helping a protagonist emerge from the group whose exploration of their concern, their focal issue, reflect the concern, and issue, of the group as a whole ... so that when the protagonist has their catharsis, through projective identification it is a group catharsis.
But, catharis is not the ultimate goal; it is after catharsis, when there is a sudden dramatic freedom to lower the perceptual boundaries which we habitually use to control the world ... in that period of time people can, often, really "hear" each other for the first time, and know that they are not alone, special, but not unique, connected to their humanity.
cheers, Bill
«There is a spectrum, from "clearly desirable behaviour," to "possibly dodgy behavior that still makes some sense," to "clearly undesirable behavior." We try to make the latter into warnings or, better, errors. But stuff that is in the middle category you don’t want to restrict unless there is a clear way to work around it.» Eric Lippert, May 14, 2008
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I'm not joking at all,
I do not need psychiatric,
All I am worried right now is finding next job after notice period finishes...
Thanks,
Nitin
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The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
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If you're an introvert, why do you care what others think?
I certainly consider myself to be an introvert, and I've always thought being driven to not giving a flying f*** what others think came with the territory. Once others understand nothing bothers you, you become a boring target and they move on to pick on somebody else. That's certainly been the story of my life.
Besides, your employer is not paying you to grow your circle of friends. Sounds like you need to work with these people, but hang out with a different group--don't think these two need to be one and the same.
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Nitin Sawant wrote: First random co-workers passed obscene comments which I ignored as I was new joinee,
After that I'm being ostracized at workplace - going solo for lunch, snacks, coffee etc.
I've been on the outside of the social cliques most of my life, but even so, in my experience, people aren't generally like that without some sort of reason. So, like others have said, it feels like there's more to the story here. Perhaps you offended them somehow or shunned their social feelers without noticing? Introverts tend to do that a lot more than they realize.
Nitin Sawant wrote: Now I resigned and random co-workers are defaming me.Even when I go for interview at random company some people wearing black clothes come and do sledging.
Unless this is literal, it sounds like you're describing what in the US, would be described as "blacklisting" -- nobody respectable will hire you because word has gotten around that you're not an employee they would want to hire. Its also possible you're getting a bad reference from your former employer. I can't help with what to do about either.. for blacklisting, maybe move to another city far enough away that the companies wouldn't have a lot of exchange? But for getting a bad reference? I dunno.. make yourself attractive enough as an employee (accept crushingly low wage, do the work nobody else will do, etc.) to find someone willing to take a chance on you long enough to allow you to rebuild your reputation maybe?
Nitin Sawant wrote: I wonder what are the companies which hire remote C# developers globally?
In this day and age of outsourcing firms, there's really no reason to hire a remote developer from another country. Its much easier to hire an outsourcing firm from another country and let them worry about their local labor laws. You might be able to find some contract stints though -- I've not looked into it, but have heard that there are job boards where people post small contract jobs. Since everything's handled online, where the coder is from isn't significant as long as they do good work and can communicate.
We can program with only 1's, but if all you've got are zeros, you've got nothing.
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The "don't let advertisers use my advertising ID" thing, that is.
Every unblocked site I've visited, today, has been covered with ads for terminal servers -- from the company I already get them from, no less.
Privacy, my @rse. It's placebo security.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Once upon a time, I clicked the DoubleClick Opt-Out option. It put an opt-out cookie on my system with a unique ID. It's my nature to check such things immediately (OCD ?). So now, by opting out of DoubleClick, I gave them the best cookie ever if I kept it. My lesson was learned.
My browser (FireFox), between settings and add-ons, blocks virtually everything, and, as needed, I opt-in on my own terms. This, by the way, lends a certain peace and quiet to my browsing.
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They call themselves respectable, professional organisations, but they act exactly like spammers.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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W∴ Balboos wrote: Once upon a time, I clicked the DoubleClick Opt-Out option
The best way I found to deal with organizations like that was to blacklist their webserver. No more ads, and since my browser won't talk to them anymore to download their ads, no more tracking either. Sadly, I switch from IE to Chrome, and it doesn't have such a feature. Oh, and as a bonus, doing that made my back button work again too 
We can program with only 1's, but if all you've got are zeros, you've got nothing.
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My boss uses what he call honey pot mail addresses whenever he signs up for something. If he buys some tech from a company and registers any sort of account or does anything where they want his email he creates an address specifically for that company to be able to see which ones gives away his information.
I think he said Adobe was a huge culprit.
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Maybe ad blocking with a custom HOSTS file will help. Google it if you are interested.
Get me coffee and no one gets hurt!
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So hold on: to get this mythical privacy, I've either got to use a browser that's made by the main offender, or one that's back-door governed by the main offender?
I refer the learned gentleman to this posting[^] and this posting[^].
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I could nail my tongue to the desk, as well... In fact, I think I'd rather nail my tongue to the desk.
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So which browser are you using? 
"These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined."
- Homer
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Sometimes Opera, sometimes Maxthon.
Y'know, the two that are the most advanced and always win all the accolades, unlike chrome and firefox.
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And I wouldn't trust Maxthon if you paid me:
In 2016 computer security researchers from Fidelis Cybersecurity and Exatel discovered the browser surreptitiously sending sensitive browsing and system data—such as ad blocker status, websites visited, searches conducted and applications installed with their version numbers—to remote servers located in Beijing, China.
According to Maxthon, the data is sent as part of the company's 'User Experience Improvement Program' and that it is "voluntary and totally anonymous." However, researchers found the data still being collected and transmitted to remote servers even after users explicitly opted-out of the program.
The researchers further found the data being transmitted over an unencrypted connection (HTTP), leaving users vulnerable to man-in-the-middle attacks.
Fidelis' Chief Security Officer, Justin Harvey, noted the data "...contains almost everything you would want in conducting a reconnaissance operation to know exactly where to attack. Knowing the exact operating system and installed applications, and browsing habits it would be trivial to send a perfectly crafted spearphish to the victim or perhaps set up a watering hole attack on one of their most frequented websites."
Maxthon Browser Sends Sensitive Data to China | SecurityWeek.Com[^]
Maxthon browser vulnerable to Chinese cyberespionage and MitM attacks[^]
"These people looked deep within my soul and assigned me a number based on the order in which I joined."
- Homer
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If you opt in to any product's user experience program, it will send data home.
To me, it doesn't matter if the company is in China or America; they're both foreign powers, and I trust neither of them to look after my interests.
The Maxthon UXP is off, by default, BTW. With apple, google, and microsoft, you don't get the option to not have them reap all your private data, so guess which of the three companies I trust more.
I do actually allow them access to some data, because I have a user account with them and I synchronise stuff and share pages across machines, which means that that information has to pass through their servers (which is probably what the paranoid idiots in your article were talking about). I also do the same with Opera.
And that comment by Justin Harvey, at the end of your quote, is just plain ridiculous. What, because I'm one of the millions of people who use Sync Preferences, Cloud Pages, and Upload to Cloud functions, a bunch of browser devs are going to mount an assault on me? Talk about stirring up paranoia.
I've used their kit since the MyIE shell, which made IE4 way more useful (with tabs, etc), and no Chinese jackboots have been anywhere near my door.
You're much more likely to have intrusions from google -- and if you're using itunes or winio, things have already gone far, far beyond simple intrusion.
... By a foreign power.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Your advertising ID is a Google created thing that allows companies to track your behaviour and it was created to mimic browser cookies. Instead of just tracking websites you visit, it is used to link up app usage with your ad ID, thereby allowing in-app advertising to be targeted to your interests.
So instead of just worrying about cookies, you get to worry about cookies and OS specific ad IDs.
Another reason Google changed their byline from "Do no evil" to "Do the right thing". The right thing for them.
cheers
Chris Maunder
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Looks like I can configure Maxthon to use it, so I'll give it a go.
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<font size="32">WHY2K?</font>
... such stuff as dreams are made on
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<font size="32">!Y?</font>
Bad command or file name. Bad, bad command! Sit! Stay! Staaaay...
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UR2L8!
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I am NOT too late. It was just a typo. I wanted to write:
WHY3K?
... such stuff as dreams are made on
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