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Don't ever think that there is no reason behind that kind of seemingly irrational behavior. Whatever you do, don't get angry or defensive.
I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats.
His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.
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CodeWraith wrote: Whatever you do, don't get angry or defensive.
That's the best advice. I'm following the same. Because I know what happens otherwise. 
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Nand32 wrote: Because I know what happens otherwise
We all do, but many let emotions and hormones lure themselves into idiot mode. And that's exactly the purpose the whole show was for.
I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats.
His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.
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CodeWraith wrote: We all do, but many let emotions and hormones lure themselves into idiot mode
I learnt it the hard way. Now I'm into the elite league. Handling things much better.
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I'm a natural, I guess. I never put up with that kind of behavior, not even when it was still some years until some hair started to grow in my face. I was officially labeled 'uncontrollable', first by my mother and then by all females that followed. As if I needed them or their control.
I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats.
His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.
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CodeWraith wrote: I never put up with that kind of behavior, not even when it was still some years
I should tell you, that's one of the toughest things to handle on earth!
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Second only to the times when they , god forbid, have to admit to having made a big mistake and desperately try the absurdest things to blame it on you or evil oppressive men in general. Usually I enjoy it far too much when they knew everything better and the whole thing ends in a desaster. Some people only learn through pain and that will not happen if some idiots always come to their rescue and then get all the blame as an additional reward.
I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats.
His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.
modified 16-Sep-19 9:29am.
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I am a happy man, and I intend to stay happy for the next few years at least.
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 seriously. I need a vacation away from home too.
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I saw a report on TV about a software developer who quit his job and went to Africa to become a bush pilot. That's a great idea. Now, where do I get an old Huey and enough money to keep it flying...
I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats.
His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.
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CodeWraith wrote: I saw a report on TV about a software developer who quit his job and went to Africa to become a bush pilot. That's a great idea. Now, where do I get an old Huey and enough money to keep it flying...
Sounds wonderful. I'm sure the software developer is a loner.
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Maybe his dog flies with him[^]. 
I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats.
His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.
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Quote: He had white horses
And ladies by the score
All dressed in satin
And waiting by the door
Oooh, what a lucky man he was
Oooh, what a lucky man he was
White lace and feathers
They made up his bed
A gold covered mattress
On which he was laid
Oooh, what a lucky man he was
Oooh, what a lucky man he was
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I guess for that one day, he was a lucky man.  
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So take her out.
Dinner on Friday (take flowers) and a day out with her and the kids on Saturday (or Sunday).
I mean how hectic can work really be, you should have SOME time for the ones you love? 
Loved ones > work, and so shall be the whole of the law.
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Sander Rossel wrote: Dinner on Friday (take flowers) and a day out with her and the kids on Saturday (or Sunday)
This is happening almost every weekend.
In her language, going out means going for a picnic, to a resort and chill out for 4-5 days, shutting down all office works. 
And the point is, she isnt deprived of all these, at all. It's definitely not her problem. There could be some other reasons. Will come to know some other day when she's back to normal. There's a waiting time to get to the actual facts. lol
She knows it well, that I'm not at fault now. But you see, that's how it works. When a quarrel is picked up, I cannot point out the logic/fact/rational. It works beyond all these.
But she's nice in general, once in 3-4 months this kinda turbulence happens and I need to sit and investigate what the heck would have happened. 
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That's what women are known for I guess
It is believed they keep a woman who tells you what's wrong captive in Area 51.
Another theory is that they've developed a microwave that heats your food instead of your plate.
Either of those would be truly alien indeed...
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Sander Rossel wrote: That's what women are known for I guess
Very true! That's why I never looked for another option. I know it can easily become "From the frying pan to the fire". I'm completely okay with the pan. My butts are used to this now 
Sander Rossel wrote: It is believed they keep a woman who tells you what's wrong captive in Area 51.
Another theory is that they've developed a microwave that heats your food instead of your plate.
Either of those would be truly alien indeed...
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and she can't take you out?
women want equality and still demand special attention
(dunno weather to say "more equal", "logic error" or "this picture is broken")
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No, she can't take him out. That's not her goal. She wants to be taken out. At once. The whole show appears irrational, but it's actually so clever that many men never quite get how they are being manipulated. She hopes to get him angry or defensive, because in both cases she instantly 'wins'. If he gets angry, she will turn it against him and graciously give him a chance to make up for it. Same if he gets defensive, but without the drama. You can't always have it all. Staying calm and insisting on going ahead as it was agreed is the only way out of this.
I have lived with several Zen masters - all of them were cats.
His last invention was an evil Lasagna. It didn't kill anyone, and it actually tasted pretty good.
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CodeWraith wrote: The whole show appears irrational, but it's actually so clever that many men never quite get how they are being manipulated. She hopes to get him angry or defensive, because in both cases she instantly 'wins'. If he gets angry, she will turn it against him and graciously give him a chance to make up for it. Same if he gets defensive, but without the drama. You can't always have it all. Staying calm and insisting on going ahead as it was agreed is the only way out of this.
100%. I'm so surprised how this works so precisely, consistently across continents.
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CodeWraith wrote: it was agreed
What about, "No, I never agreed for that"?
"It is easy to decipher extraterrestrial signals after deciphering Javascript and VB6 themselves.", ISanti[ ^]
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