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You need a reason not to talk to people? I don't. 
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Usually, no 
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In the music scene, you didn't expect singers to be snorting? 
Such a sheltered life you have led!
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I never said she was a singer 
I live on an island with the nickname "the white island" (and not because its inhabitants are mainly white), but I've never known anyone who was on (hard) drugs. I think... 
We have a lot of farmers who have sheds in the middle of nowhere, great for drug labs.
The musicians are all hobbyists, so they can't live the drugs, sex and rock n roll lifestyle in weekends and be at work/in school on Monday
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Sander Rossel wrote: The musicians are all hobbyists, so they can't live the drugs, sex and rock n roll lifestyle in weekends and be at work/in school on Monday
You would be surprised what can be done during the weekend and still be in the school on monday
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Yeah, but as you get older the possibilities become limited 
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I wouldn't say that... possibilities don't get limited.
But getting up on the next day gets worst, that's for sure...  
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Quote: But getting up on the next day gets worst, that's for sure
But when you reach my age, you jump out of bed just to see the sun rise one more time! 
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If I had a party now as the ones I had 15 years ago... I would not jump out of the bed, I would be more than happy if I could crawl or roll out of it
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I don't even need to party for that... I am NOT a morning person...
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This
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Sander Rossel wrote: sheds in the middle of nowhere
In the Netherlands?
Didn't know you had such a thing.
Well, I suppose it's relative. 
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Well, "middle of nowhere" here means a five minute drive in each direction before you reach the next settlement...
But yeah, we must built more houses and move designated nature areas.
Because god forbid we have a square meter that's not house or asphalt.
I don't like vacations in the Netherlands, because no matter where you go you're never far from a busy road.
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I would recommend a week of "The middle of nowhere".
Everyone should experience the sky without light pollution at least once in their lives.
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Jörgen Andersson wrote: I would recommend a week of "The middle of nowhere".
Everyone should experience the sky without light pollution at least once in their lives.
I second that.
But I would not stay longer than 10 days 
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Second that as well.
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I tried that (a safari in South Africa). The sky was cloudy. 
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I've been in a (luxury) tent camp on a big rock in Kenya once.
Even though we were on top of this huge rock and we could see the horizon on all sides, we did not see a single house, car, human or even artificial light.
At night you could see ALL the stars.
I live in a rural village and I can see some stars, but that there was magical.
We've only been there two nights, which was enough as the nights got cold without heating
Of course the other lodges we've been to we're pretty out in the nowhere as well, but none had such a stunning view.
It makes me a little sad to know that's not possible in the Netherlands.
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I was out camping once lying in my sleeping bag and looking up at the amazing show of thousands of stars I could clearly see with the naked eye. I pondered this wonderful view for a while and then thought to myself, "Who the heck has stolen my tent!"
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Rather than blowing away the nerves with some chemicals I would suggest do expose you again and again and again to an audience. It is something one can train like other stuff
And believe me I was sometimes nearly out of order because of the nerves, but doing it again and again helped me to become familiar with the situation.
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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Yeah, but no.
When I have to say my name in a group my heartbeat goes to at least 200 bpm.
When I have to tell a bit about myself I forget who I am and what I do.
When I have a presentation about Azure or whatever I do not only forget who I am, but everything I ever knew.
I also start to stutter and sound like a sheep, if I say anything at all.
At school, during a co-presentation, I once hit my knee against a desk because I was shaking so hard I couldn't control my body.
It hurt like hell, and I wasn't even the one doing the talking at the time
It's not just nerves, it's a total shutdown of my brain and a complete meltdown of the rest of my body.
It's hard to talk when your heart is beating like crazy and you forget to breathe
When I have a beta blocker, I talk, make jokes, people listen and I get compliments afterwards.
You can't really practice when people expect you to perform and give a hell of a presentation
It's stupid, I know, but that's just how my body reacts to an audience
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Very similar symptoms I know from my body. And what I mean with training, it is not something like do three or four times to solve it. For me it took more than a decade with very small progress in between.
[Edit]
Btw. did you ever check your thyroid function? Ok, in my case it was not the reason (unfortunately, because if it was it, the solution would have been be more easy).
It does not solve my Problem, but it answers my question
modified 19-Jan-21 21:04pm.
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I don't have that kind of time
I'm also not sure when I react like that.
I had a new job and after two weeks I had to show something to the team.
I already got very nervous during the talk, which was for six coworkers.
When I had a goodbye speech for five coworkers at my last job it was all good.
When I had the same speech a day later for thirty (half of which I didn't know), I cut it short before I collapsed
At another job, for a couple of coworkers, six or seven, that I all knew very well, I had the same problem.
"I had a great... time... and I... uhhh... ... ... ..."
(goddammit, I know all these people!)
"learned... a lot... things..."
(I'VE KNOWN THEM FOR YEARS!)
"and uhhh....."
(OMG SAY SOMETHING, ANYTHING!)
"thanks."
I got nerves when I had to tell my uncle I wanted to quit his company (one on one and he's a relaxed guy so he would never hold it against me).
But during a meeting with a customer, where I had to present Azure to their IT manager and someone else from the IT team, I had no problems whatsoever.
It just makes no sense...
I'm doing pretty good for myself, but I sometimes think that if I were an extravert I'd be making millions by now
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I used to be like that and just avoided situations where I had to talk to more than two or three people. But with advancing age, I somehow grew out of it (no idea how), and now I can talk to a very large crowd with hardly any shaking, and my heart tends to stay fairly normal. I wish I had some better advice to offer ...
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