Just pass the id for the new member in the constructor of the edit form, and use it to select the right person in the datagrid.
Hope this helps.
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Say your second form was called EditForm, then you would create a constructor in this form that takes an int representing the selected members id. Then the form would use this information to select the right member, something like this (pseudocode):-
public class EditForm
{
public EditForm(int memberID)
{
datagrid1.SelectedPerson = from person in datagrid1.datasource where person.id == memberID;
}
}
Then you would open this form when the button is clicked like this:-
private void btnSaveAndEdit_Click(object sender, EventArgs e)
{
EditForm e = new EditForm(paulsID);
e.showdialogue();
}
This is obviously not real code, but should give you the idea of how to go about it.