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We're all getting older here. I'm 65, my parents have passed, my MIL is 86 and is mentally gone. My FIL (88) is hanging in there, and thank God, he's starting to get some sleep - MIL broke her hip 3 weeks ago. We've had time to pull him back from the brink, but he's showing his age. Hopefully sleep will help him over time.
This is pure hell, and I'm just the son in law. I'm just tossing this out here since we have some real veterans here, and maybe you are dealing with this as well. If so, hang in there.
 
Charlie Gilley
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
Has never been more appropriate.
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Sorry to hear that man. Wish I could relate, but my thoughts are with you.
Jeremy Falcon
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Charlie, I've been where you are. My mother was diagnosed with dementia. I spent the next eight months living with and caring for her. Moments spent laughing over shared memories and watching the Little League World Series were balanced by nights trying and failing to soothe her hallucinations. Incontinence and its indignities. Days when she slept for 20 hours straight and days when she didn't sleep at all. Explaining to 911 first responders for the third time in two weeks why they'd received hysterical calls from her house (they were very understanding and kind) when my mother forgot I was there and I had fallen asleep on a couch. It finally ended when she had a stroke and passed ten days later.
The saving graces during this time were my mother's neighbors who were always there to help and my boss who let me work from my mother's home when I could.
Please take care, and I hope for the best for your wife and yourself as you navigate this ![Rose | [Rose]](https://codeproject.global.ssl.fastly.net/script/Forums/Images/rose.gif) .
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Gary R. Wheeler wrote: It finally ended when she had a stroke and passed ten days later.
Sorry to hear that man. Hope the good memories will shine on forever. ![Rose | [Rose]](https://codeproject.freetls.fastly.net/script/Forums/Images/rose.gif)
Jeremy Falcon
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Thanks Jeremy.
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I'm the same vintage as you can sympathize. Caring for aging parents is a labor of love. Hang in there. In an odd way, caring for the ones you love gives you the inner strength to continue to do be able to do that.
/ravi
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Sorry to hear, hang in there.
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I've related bits and pieces of my story before on here, but suffice it to say my mom had to be moved into a nursing home due to the progression of her Alzheimer's, barely into her 70s. That was in February 2020. The move didn't go all that well, but what can you do? My dad's doctor told him either she had to be placed, or stress would get him first.
3 weeks later, everybody went full r*t**d with Covid and locked everything down. They did not allow any visitor for months. When they finally did reopen, my mom couldn't recognize anyone, wasn't aware she had children, and most of the time couldn't even recall her own name.
I maintain the firm belief that how they handled Covid precipitated my mother's rapid decline.
To say this disease sucks is an understatement. It's eating away at my dad.
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No easy answer. Went through same with MIL and wife's aunt. Both wound up in nursing homes. Fortunately, the aunt's husband (predeceased her) did OK investing. He was B-17 gunner in WWII, badly wounded but managed to run his own business after the war. Prince of a man. Never knew he was in combat until helping with all the paperwork when we went to bring the aunt here. Like many, he didn't talk about it. He did amazing stone work.
Like I said, no easy way unless you have a load of money.
Hang in there, good sense of humor helps a (very) little.
FWIIW, I am trying to make sure we don't do the same to our children.
>64
It’s weird being the same age as old people. Live every day like it is your last; one day, it will be.
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Sorry to hear about your fight, but yes, you are not alone 
[google translated]
My mother (90), (I'm 61), has been suffering from dementia for several years.
Up until now, she has lived independently in our parents' house, given the circumstances, and has managed quite well. This is because of the care provided by professinal home care and also by us children and our partners.
At the beginning of this year, she unfortunately suffered a heart attack and had to be admitted to hospital.
After she had recovered from this heart attack, she went to a rehabilitation clinic. There they realized that it would be difficult for my mother to be able to live independently in her house again.
Understandably, she resisted this massively and (at the age of 90) started doing some stupid things (ordering a taxi home, demonstratively lying on the floor, etc.) to get her to go home again.
She was then moved to a ward for dementia patients. It breaks my heart, I have only visited her there twice since the beginning of this year... Why? I can't stand being there, it feels like I'm in a madhouse!
My only consolation is that my mother doesn't really realise all of this and lives mostly in her own world. Hopefully not just an excuse to ease my conscience!
I hope my mother can forgive me for this, she has always taken very selfless care of us children in very difficult times and I'm just letting her down 
And yes, I would do everything I could to ensure that she can live at home again. But unfortunately she does not accept that this means that she will be cared for by nursing staff around the clock. She is so narrow-minded 
modified 22-Aug-24 16:02pm.
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Sorry,
Watching my wife go thru this with her dad has sucked for the last year. He sometimes knows things and other times wants to divorce his wife (who has been gone for years), because she hasn't come to visit him.
It absolutely sucks.
To err is human to really elephant it up you need a computer
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We have been lucky in that both our mothers lived into their 90s and were mentally fine right to the end. Now approaching the same thresholds (I'm 80 next June) our main worry is whether this will affect either or both of us.
Incidentally we have quite a few friends where one partner is a sufferer.
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I feel your pain - my MIL died of Alzheimer's and I'm concerned for my wife who is showing signs of no short-term memory retention.
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appreciate the feedback, but I know there are people out there dealing with this in a lot worse conditions. Had more to do with "If so, hang in there."
Today, the family completed moving her to assisted living. It was ugly, but after we got her there, the staff seems to be helping her settle down. We spent the morning getting her room set up. The hardest part is the name calling at grand daughters. I can take it, but it shocked a couple of them. We'll see how it goes.
Charlie Gilley
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” BF, 1759
Has never been more appropriate.
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The final Grand Tour / Real Top Gear episode release date and teaser video is released: The Grand Tour: One For The Road | Official Teaser - YouTube[^]
Have we really been watching - and enjoying - these three idiots for 22 years? 
End of an era - I'm gonna miss 'em.
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sad and lovely at the same time. I have adored these idiots for quite a while. I do have to say Lizzy Hammond on DriveTribe is a hoot to listen to and watch.
To err is human to really elephant it up you need a computer
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I do not follow these geezers normally, but the episode where Clarkson got sunstroke in the Greek heat, and "hallucinated" that he was a Greek Deity, was pretty hilarious. I thought that was The Goodbye.
"If we don't change direction, we'll end up where we're going"
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This trio was replaced on Top Gear on the BBC about 10 years ago. Did they make a similar program shown on a different “channel” since then?
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Yes, they moved to Amazon Prime with "The Grand Tour" and continued to do largely the same stuff but with a bigger budget.
And while the BBC version floundered (and eventually died) without them, the Amazon version continued. This is the final outing for them as a trio, though they all have solo projects: "Clarkson's Farm", "Hammond's Workshop", and a couple of things with Captain Slow involving travel and / or cooking.
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"Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt
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...that both javascript in general, and React in particular, are steaming piles of solidified bull methane. I feel like I can say that with some authority after three years of wading through it. I'm so ready for retirement...
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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On the bright side, you may be able to retire early on disability....
If banging your head on your desk is a valid claim! 
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Ok, yeah no... being intentionally provocative is something I can jive with. But, in the past 20 years, it's the same old thing here on CP. At least complain about something new already.
Also, working with something for an amount of time has nothing to do with being an expert. Expertise comes from the amount of effort you put into something. I've worked with, hired, and known peeps in the field for a while who still didn't know how to tie their shoes (metaphorically speaking) with code. Granted, the inverse isn't true either, but I digress.
Jeremy Falcon
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I complained about javascript years ago - React is a new thing - and I never said I was an expert. Indeed, if I were an "expert", I would probably not be in a position (or so willing) to call javascript crap. But for now, I stand by my claim.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
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One thing is for certain, coming to CP means someone (who knows little about it) will bash JS, React, etc. This is not intellectual discourse. It's just immaturity.
Btw, you may wanna think about the fact you just said your claim is that you make emotionally charged opinions based on (self admitted) lack of knowledge about the subject matter. Cool. 
Hey I get it. All I'm saying is be a leader and not a follower and find something new to gripe about as you go about hating your day.
And I'm sure I'll get no love for saying that, given the fact I'm totally outnumbered here when ya know, trying to be happy about life.
Jeremy Falcon
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Javascript has always been described as such.
I frequently feel that same way. 9 years give or take til retirement. Met with financial guy a week or so ago. He says that if we downsized the house could probably retire now. DW says nope. Don't blame her. I would miss the bar in the basement. But if I retired I might not need the bar in the basement. LOL
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