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Grasshopper.iics12-Sep-13 22:30
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BillWoodruff12-Sep-13 23:26
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Grasshopper, it is natural to feel disappointment, even grief, when you have worked hard, put your heart, and soul, as well as your mind, into creating something new, and then: to not have your creation appreciated; to not be selected in the contest, or not have your work accepted and praised, or get you the job.

The more you put your guts into your creation, the more you felt confident you were doing something that was your "personal best:" the harder to bear the disappointment.

It's also natural to wonder, after the disappointment: what went wrong; did the judges make a mistake; did they not see, for some reason, the quality of my work; did I make some serious mistake ... and, on, and on. During the natural process of the mind, and emotions, recovering from a "bruise of the ego," the mind, driven by a flux of different emotions, can wander into dark thoughts, into angry fantasies, or into fantasies of grief, or, into negative thoughts in which you doubt yourself, wonder if you really have a good future ahead of you.

That's part of the human condition, imho. That's what happens when you take risks, and push yourself beyond your limits, often.

But, how much better ... in the bigger-picture ... a life you have if you take risks, and put "yourself on the line," and test your limits !

From my point of view, you have not "lost," you have "won," on the most important levels, and I am sure in the next few weeks, as you get over the shock, and disappointment, you'll re-frame what's happened in a very different way than you can now.

I think in a short while you'll feel pride in what you achieved, a pride which will endure, and the work you've just done will be something you can build on in your future, possibly in ways that you can't really predict right now. Who knows what doors will open for you in the future because of this work ?

Is it valuable for you to analyze, and speculate, about the judges' decision ?

On one level, I think it is, particularly if the judges themselves made detailed statements about the judging process, and what criteria were met by the work of those selected for recognition.

But, in the short term, on another level, over-concern with "figuring out what happened" may just intensify patterns of negative thinking which leads to depression, and may possibly delay your moving forward. And, if there's a real absence of feedback, as seems the case here, there's a risk you are just "spinning your wheels" mentally in an unproductive way.

There's a time and place for detailed analysis of one's outcome, progress, mistakes, and that time may be quite different for each person, because of the profound differences between people in temperament, and patterns of coping.

Only you can sense if this is really the right time to try and "make sense" of this situation.

I'm sorry that I can't help you understand your "flaws:" but, I just can't find a single damn flaw in you Smile | :)

with warm regards, bill
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