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Just take it to the HOA. Pointless getting involved in a direct spat with a neighbor; never ends well. Using the HOA makes it non-personal and will probably get it resolved far more quickly than screaming at someone. Your actions may make you the bad guy.
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Yeah, that's what I did this morning. What's done is done as for as me getting hot tempered though, but I don't plan on revisiting them because I know I'll just get hot tempered again.
Jeremy Falcon
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I haven't read the other responses however:
Given from what you have said about this neighbour this is probably not the first time they have done something like this I think it was fine to bang on their door.
If they were civilised they would ask you first and I imagine if you were reasonable you would probably say something like "sure but could you take it down after two hours as I want to sit in the garden later this afternoon."
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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You are correct with that assumption, although I would've requested something reasonable in size for such a small area. This thing quite literally is the biggest trampoline I've ever seen. Just makes no sense to stick something that large in such a small space.
Jeremy Falcon
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Just tell him that if it accidentally catches fire because it is encroaching on your smoke pit, you won't be held responsible.
Also it may be blocking your Archery Range, but not to worry I am sure the arrows will pass harmlessly between anyone bouncing on the trampoline if you get the timing just right.
If he can use all the area for a pastime then so can everyone else.
BTW: I never yell when I am angry at someone. In fact I do my best to not show my anger at all, I just make my point(s) in a quiet, calm manner. Some people have told me I am scary when I do this - maybe because I am British and all Americans think we are all secretly evil masterminds per Hollywood stereotypes! Obviously, if you are an American this wouldn't work for you so the yelling (not in front of spouse and offspring) is probably the acceptable norm.
PS. Casually carrying a gardening implement, such as a hoe, machete or axe can also help make sure they pay attention. Wear gardening gloves to enhance the impression that you were just recently working in the garden and not actually being threatening.
- I would love to change the world, but they won’t give me the source code.
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Forogar wrote: maybe because I am British and all Americans think we are all secretly evil masterminds per Hollywood stereotypes!
I don't think it's really a secret... 
The United States invariably does the right thing, after having exhausted every other alternative. -Winston Churchill
America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between. -Oscar Wilde
Wow, even the French showed a little more spine than that before they got their sh*t pushed in.[^] -Colin Mullikin
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Forogar wrote: BTW: I never yell when I am angry at someone. In fact I do my best to not show my anger at all, I just make my point(s) in a quiet, calm manner. Some people have told me I am scary when I do this - maybe because I am British and all Americans think we are all secretly evil masterminds per Hollywood stereotypes! Obviously, if you are an American this wouldn't work for you so the yelling (not in front of spouse and offspring) is probably the acceptable norm.
Jeremy Falcon
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Forogar wrote: In fact I do my best to not show my anger at all, I just make my point(s) in a quiet, calm manner. Some people have told me I am scary when I do this
Do you also twitch in one of your eyes and refer to 'Mother' when you do this? 
... as in [in a nerdy emotionless voice] "Mother always taught me" [eye twitch] " to be polite when people are bad to me" [eye twitch]...
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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I would have told him, "that as he already knows, what went up, must come down."
Plus, you have to consider, that being a common area, you all may be jointly liable if someone, probably a neighbourhood kid, injures themselves on it.
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Matthew Dennis wrote: Plus, you have to consider, that being a common area, you all may be jointly liable if someone, probably a neighbourhood kid, injures themselves on it.
Excellent point.
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This is one of many reasons I don't share! I know I'm reasonable  but I don't count on anybody else being so!
Hogan
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Yes. You should have asked him calmly to move it.
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Well, I don't know your neighbor and I don't know how often you go into your garden, but personally I'd "knocked" on his door and said something like
"That's a nice looking trampoline you've got there... Takes up a little space..."
See how he responds, perhaps at this point he already starts apologizing and asking if it's alright or else he'd take it away.
If he doesn't perhaps continue like "You know, it wouldn't hurt asking your neighbors if they'd mind such a large trampoline in their garden..."
He probably knows he's wrong, you know he's wrong, your other neighbors know he's wrong.
Nothing can really justify taking up all of your shared garden space.
But now you've gone and made an ass of yourself, shouting and cursing at him.
And now you're both wrong 
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The problem with that approach is that if it had a chance of working, the neighbour wouldn't have put up the trampoline without asking in the first hand. 
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You never know... At least you've tried to solve it friendly. If the neighbor refuses to take away his trampoline at least you're not the jackass for cursing at him.
And let's be honest, if someone shouts and curses at you like hell you're going to move your trampoline! You want him to move his trampoline and shouting and cursing is probably the worst approach to try and reach that goal...
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Half the reason I got upset is because he wasn't friendly about it at all, and it doesn't take much to get me going it seems. 
Jeremy Falcon
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Sander Rossel wrote: But now you've gone and made an ass of yourself, shouting and cursing at him.
And now you're both wrong
I know you're right man. I can't go back in time, but I'm gonna try to handle it the right way now at least.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: I can't go back in time
Grab a few beers, knock on your neighbors door again tell him you have some anger issues and that you're sorry and if he'd like to join you for a drink! That'll show him (no really, it's what he least expects)! After a few he might just move his trampoline too 
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Didn't say I was a coward either. I don't intend to make friends with people like that. I just made a mistake. I don't need to be his friend.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: Didn't say I was a coward either.
Admitting you were wrong is only for the bravest of the brave
Jeremy Falcon wrote: I don't intend to make friends with people like that.
You don't have to. You're just going to have a friendly talk with him, and a few beers, about his trampoline.
You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar and all that.
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Sander Rossel wrote: Admitting you were wrong is only for the bravest of the brave
I was wrong for the name calling, but I wasn't wrong about not being happy. He was wrong with that.
Jeremy Falcon
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Well, you know, be the better man and all that.
Perhaps I just have no spine, pride and honor. Which is really convenient when dealing with people though
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Put a cover over it that doesn't touch it but is only a foot above it! It is common space, right? Then he'll know how you feel! 
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Too late to undo the shouting and cursing, but as long as you weren't threatening he doesn't have anything he can come after you with.
Let's face it you are not going to be invited to his trampoline party or get a christmas card. Doesn't sound like someone who you would probably like to socialize with so there is no loss there.
The HOA route is the only way to go. They will probably come over to take a look and tell him to remove it because there has been a complaint.
Once you lose your pride the rest is easy.
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. – Buddha
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