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W Balboos, GHB27-Jul-20 5:29
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Sander Rossel27-Jul-20 5:15
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I know you're joking (and it's pretty funny Laugh | :laugh: ), but I really don't want kids and it's a bit of a taboo.
People are like "just wait until you meet a woman who does" or "just wait until you're a bit older."
I've learnt not to answer the "why" question because people get offended and might call you names, like selfish, childish, narrow minded and that sort of stuff.
Or, another "favorite" of mine, people will list all the things they love about kids, that I clearly don't.
I know a woman who once said "they keep saying such stuff until you're about 40, after that point people will assume you can't have children so they won't ask because they don't want to make it awkward."
You might be wondering why I'd mention it at all, it's because having kids is the default and people always talk about "just wait until you have kids of your own."
It's even worse on dating apps, where women my age (early 30's) ask me if I want kids even before properly introducing themselves Laugh | :laugh:

I've always considered The Netherlands as pretty open-minded and although it's less open-minded than I thought it was, I've understood that other countries are even worse.
Like in Israel, I've heard, you're just out of the game if you don't want at least multiple children (don't know if that's true though).

I don't really have a point with this rant, I just wanted to raise some awareness that some people really don't want children and that's okay! Big Grin | :-D

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