You need to identify the appropriate person instance - and I have no idea how you are storing them, you don't show that: the Person instance is created anew each time you add a a date, so it can't be there.
But once you have the Person, it's easy:
myPerson.numberOfDates.add(dates);
BTW: try to avoid naming things as plurals unless they are a collection: "Dates" is a single date storage object, so it should be "Date", and "People" should probably be "Person" - but you appear to have a class for that as well...which gets confusing!