How about asking this question in a forum dedicated to the control/library you're using?? Like the forums at
http://flowplayer.org/forum/index.html[
^].
Right now, you're HOPING that someone who has used this control, especially in the way you're using it, wanders by and sees your question. That is a very remote possibility.
There, it's virually guaranteed you'll find someone who has used the control and knows how to do what you're asking!