Selecting rows where user can be both friend and user

Hey Sorry the title is not very clear.I want to design a table to store friendship relationship in my web project
I have a following friends Table

Friend(Table Name)
friend_id - primary key
user_id
user_id_friend
status

User(Table Name)
user_id- primary key
userName
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status e.g.(0 denotes rejected whereas 1 denotes accepted or 2 denotes unprocessed
It should satisfy at least the following 4 conditions:

The way the table is populated is - when I send a friend request to John - my userID appears in user_id and Johns userID appears in user_id_friend.

Now another scenario is say Mike sends me a friend request - in this case mike's userID will appear in user_id and my userID will appear in user_id_friend

So to find all my friends - I need to run a query to find where my userID appears in both user_id column as well as user_id_friend column

What I am trying to do now is - when I search for user say John - I want all users Johns listed on my site to show up along with the status of whether they are my friend or not and if they are not - then show a Add Friend button.

If any of you are experienced with this , any suggestion is welcomed

my current design (I think bad right now)

please suggest me a sql to retrieve the data.

thanx in advance.

Tags: C#, SQL, ASP.NET, SQL Server, SQL Server 2008