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Yes, the dynamics do change. Our "kids" are in the 30s and 40s now. They were OK until the preteen/teen years. Then they morphed into some sort of alien creatures. Then they grew up, entered the real world, and we are closer than I ever imagined. And I was the same way with my parents.
The key is crystal clarity that you offer unconditional love to them as individuals. That the only thing that is required to have that love is that they exist. Good or bad, you will never desert them or disown them. Saying "no", however, is often the best sign of love in a situation. My kids as teens would get so frustrated with me being immovable on certain things, but they understood that, whether I would later be proven right or wrong, I was acting to protect them while they were still minors.
Girls are usually a different dynamic in the implementation. You can talk sternly to boys, and they usually get it. Talk sternly to your little girl, and the tears flow! At first, earnestly, because a girl's feelings and emotions are different and delicate. Then they learn how to use tears as a weapon.
Adapt to the unique character of each child, be patient, and they will eventually return to being human.
Oh, and no matter how strong the urge, do not follow the animal kingdom (which sometimes eats their young) or give them away. If the latter, whoever takes them will just bring them back.
So I recently contributed to a book on Microsoft Azure.
My employer heard about it (not from me as the book isn't even released yet, although it would come out like two months ago...) and asked me if I wanted to promote the book with a book presentation.
I said yes and Tuesday is the big day...
So now I have to present my book, give some good info and a few demo's on Azure, and talk for one and a half hours to 30-60 people I don't know.
Did I mention I suck at presenting and standing in front of a crowd makes me feel like I'm having a heart attack?
I'm sure it'll be fine and I'll do a good job, but right now I'm wondering why I ever agreed to do this