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Many young men find intelligent and competent young women intimidating. The only advice I will give you is not to compromise; somewhere out there is someone who can appreciate you for what you are, rather than what he'd like you to be.
As for the rest (sickness, rain, stairs, squash, studies), that's just life - some days you get honey, other days you get onions. The important thing is not to let it depress you.
Freedom is the freedom to say that two plus two make four. If that is granted, all else follows.
-- 6079 Smith W.
I feel your pain. I am sitting here, on my computer, while working on my wife's computer. It pulled a MEMORY MANAGEMENT Blue Screen of Death. The house is not air conditioned and it is 10F degrees warmer and much dryer than normal for late September. Rain would be appreciated – my pastures are starting to brown from lack of rain. My wife and both children (all three are college students!) are studying for an exam tomorrow, leaving me to do all of the daily chores – both the household chores and the ranch chores.
Feeling ill just makes everything worse for you. But it could be much worse. From your use of words, I would assume that you are at least 40 years younger than I – Yep, I am a "retired" senior citizen.
The good news is that boyfriends and girlfriends are replaceable. I know, at first, it hurts. Better to find out about potential relationship problems before marriage. If you cannot work them out, you can both walk away. After marriage, it is significantly more difficult and much more painful.
If you want to talk, email me directly. I usually can write back late at night or shortly after midnight US Central Time.
I see this as more an intra-family conflict, rather than a "life-work" conflict ... of course, that does not mean it's any less troubling for you.
imho, your reasons for not following demands you had no input into are solid, and you have every right to say to anyone who has problems with your necessary work-related choices ... whatever you want to say.
«One day it will have to be officially admitted that what we have christened reality is an even greater illusion than the world of dreams.» Salvador Dali
The second one (in just over a month) interferes with a long planned rival college football game and weekend visit with my brother-in-law and wife. Strike two!
My Saturday was alright but Sunday was much different.
I'd been running fevers and had random sweating all week (hair wringing wet sweats) so the Mrs told me I looked to ill to go to church. She went and while she was gone I went to hang my pants back up. Reached down to the bed to grab them and the back seized up. It's happened before and I've just had to move slowly and be careful for a couple of days. This time though, I laid down and an hour later when I tried to get up, it was pain just short of kidney stone pain*. Took me 20 minutes to figure out a way to get to a standing position, the sweat this time was from pain. When she got home, we went to the Emergency Room and got to be there for 6 hours. Feel a lot better today, morphine was my friend.
*I was delirious with a kidney stone, was able to keep hold mentally this time.
You haven't had support since it was released. Why should EOL make things any different.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010 ----- You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010 ----- When you pry the gun from my cold dead hands, be careful - the barrel will be very hot. - JSOP, 2013
Which elements of the support are truly essential to you?
Not very much of it means anything to me. I once had a virus infection, of the kind that was called a "boot sector virus" (if you never heard of that before, ask your grandpa). After that it has been quiet. Probably because it is not my habit to jump around all over the Internet searching for dubious pictures and other dubious stuff. When I receive an email telling me that I have won the first prize in a lottery I never heard of, I click the "delete" button rather than the "collect your prize here" button. Every day I delete from 20 to 50 spam mails without even opening them. Even when something appears to come from a recognized company, I always hover over the links to see if the URLs are reasonable. If they are not, I delete the mail.
The same goes for links in web pages: For years, I have had the "hover before click" habit. If the real URL is different from the displayed one, or when the display text is in a "user friendly" format rather than a URL, but the real URL looks dubious, then I never click it.
Also: The "Local Area Connection" icon has for years had a firm position in the upper left hand corner of my screen. Before I start any Internet related work, I double click it to enable the connection. As soon as I am done Internetting and start, say, editing a document or open Visual Studio, I rignt click / disable the network connection. The network connection is enabled only when I am actively using it. In theory I am still not 100% safe, but I haven't had any boot sector virus on my PC lately
My PC is a tool for doing "serious" work (/hobbies), and for retrieving (reasonably) reliable information: I go to recognized, reliable web sites for information (yes, that includes Code Project ) and a handful of web newspaper and similar services, such as the weather forecast. As far as possible I avoid any web offering spying on me, so I have neither FB, Twitter, Flickr or similar accounts - and the Windows support wouldn't protect me from that sort of threats anyway. Another one of my good habits: If I am forced to log in somewhere, the minimum level of privacy protection is to immediately afterwards close down the net browser completely before doing anything else. Logging out, or preferably restarting the PC, reduces the risk of spying further. Even if you accept cookies for the sake of convenience, doing a weekly cleanup (or more often) of cookies from sites you do not recognize, is a worthwhile effort to keep you out of the eyes of those wanting to exploit you one way or the other. (Again, we are talking about threats that continued W7 support wouldn't help you against in any case!)
You still will have the protection against all the currently known malware; the ones that could be a threat are those developed anno 2020 or later. The less people use W7, the less the threat will be - no intruder today cares to develop malware attacking Win 3.11 vulnurabilities. Hardly Win95 ones. W7 will be safer and safer, as time goes on. The general proctection mechanisms have become quite good over the years, the new ones are essentially in the class "you asked for it, you got it". You opened a dubious web site, you accepted some attractive-looking special offer. And you did it logged in as a user having Administrator privileges...
Another essential point: I keep my data on separate disks, not on C:, and all the disks are backed up, incrementally, day by day, and the backup is offline (and offsite, but that is not relevant here). Ransomware is often be so simplistic that it only considers C:, but if that happens to me, I will simply reformat C: and reinstall all the software. All installers are saved on an external disk. If some ransomware actually attacks my 14 terabytes on other disks (yes, I am doing a lot of HD video editing on my PC. but I assume that you guessed that...), I might loose the edits I have made that same day, before I got around to make the incremental backup. I can live with that risk.
Bottom line: With good working habits, you will be reasonably well protected. There is no need to panic.
If you really have to surf around the Internet for dubious information, do it on another PC, maybe an old, clunky secondhand one that you got almost for free. If you "must" have the material you obtain that way accessible on your main computer, use a USB stick to move the JPEGs and MP4s over.