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... so I'm not even allowed to bring that into the house ...
Project List for 2020:
#1. build man cave
after many otherwise intelligent sounding suggestions that achieved nothing the nice folks at Technet said the only solution was to low level format my hard disk then reinstall my signature. Sadly, this still didn't fix the issue!
Anyone else who follows, and wants the answer to the problem, you can't just click OneDrive in Android file explorer, then click on an office document, then edit it. It will open read only. Who knew that you specifically have to open the OneDrive app, then open the file from it!
Thirty minute trying to figure out wtf? Why list the OneDrive files in explorer (or whatever it's called on Android) if that is the case? And googling it didn't help. Or my google-fu is no good today, since I just found a bunch of MS "We need more info to help you. Please mark this as the answer if we helped you!" - Thread locked.
When i was especially manic back in i think 2017 I was visualizing all human interaction in the social space, as series of negotiations, which were more concrete to me at that point than the physical.
It led to some rather amusing reflections**, but I still hold some of the insights i gained from that experience.
There's a whole dark web of human networking we typically don't exploit fully. We treat it as ancillary when not ignoring it entirely, and that's negotiation.
Everything is one. Even now, I'm selling you on the idea that everything is a negotiation, even - nay especially - the conveyance of ideas.
** At one point I found myself laughing hysterically at a laptop due to its continued insistence on existing despite all of the negotiations that had to take place between design, manufacture and purchase for it to be there, sitting on my bed. Yet there it was. I laughed.. It was hilarious. Each negotiation, each planning session so fungible. Anything can happen. Anything could turn that laptop into something else. Boss wore a cornflower blue tie instead of the usual red so they developed a gaming rig instead. Maybe I decided I was sick of laptops and bought a TV. Who knows? But there it was just sitting there, on my bed.
I don't think this was manic at all, but rather an important insight. You'd sell me on the idea depending on your definition of "social space", because there are aspects of human interaction that are not negotiated, where one side effectively says, "Do this or die." Apart from that, negotiations can be implicit rather than explicit, but they're still the backdrop.
"Do this or die" interactions are immoral. It would make a good sci-fi novel (if it hasn't already), but imagine beings with a shield that can't be penetrated. The shield can be enabled instantly (or perhaps slightly retroactively to defend against surprise attack). When enabled, the shield immediately repels anything but has no offensive capability. How would this society function differently than our own?
I wouldn't find a laptop hysterical, though. Even though it's arguably the outcome of a long series of "negotiations", that series had to lead somewhere, and it just so happened to be the laptop. At least in this universe.
I'm selling you on the idea that everything is a negotiation, even - nay especially - the conveyance of ideas.
I believe you are fundamentally correct, it's just that as you say, we ignore it almost always. If you're conscious of it, any human interaction, including ideas, is a deep well of sympathy and antipathy that we're often not even aware of. The "negotiation" begins with what we like and don't like in the interaction, carries forward enough to create either a reactive response or a "thoughtful" response. So we first negotiate with ourselves, and the more conscious I am of that inner negotiation, the more I have a chance of "acting" rather than "reacting."
The next negotiation is the external process of responding to the other person. This is a complex dance of acceptance, rejection, empathy, sympathy, analysis and synthesis, to name a few. We have the complexity of expressing our response, verbally or otherwise. A functionally empathetic person will be monitoring (with various degrees of awareness) two things -- how well they are actually communicating the response that they want to communicate, and their sense of how well what they are communicating is actually being received and understood by the other person.
So again, we negotiate with ourselves to modulate how we express ourselves, often in a non-verbal real-time negotiation and revision based on the other person's response. The other person, in the meantime, is going through the other process -- feelings of sympathy and antipathy arise, and the process repeats for them.
The middle area, what we normally call "negotiation" between two people is actually only a small aspect of the entire form of communication, which can be visualized as a lemniscate (a figure 8) of internal activity transformed to external activity which then becomes internal activity in the other person and is transformed to external activity, received by us and processed again through initially internal activity.
Which, in some circles, when done with as much consciousness as can be mustered, is called Goethean Conversation[^].
@marc_clifton The link to the Spock article in your blog post seems broken: here's the source (?): [^]. Note: this site, and Spock, are associated with, and promote, the esoteric anthroposophy of Rudolf Steiner, the roots of which include some of the most far-out occultists of the modern era (Annie Besant, Madame Blavatsky).
The school of psychotherapy I once trained in, and was licensed to practice (Moreno's psychodrama), was based on belief that the personality, and behavior, of people was modulated by interaction of internal roles, as well as by group dynamics, and the formal constraints of the context/environment.
«One day it will have to be officially admitted that what we have christened reality is an even greater illusion than the world of dreams.» Salvador Dali
Normal are the ones that keeps the society running.
But whenever there is a "catastrophy" happening, of whatever kind, it's the others that saves the day.
I saw a very interesting program on TV a while ago, where a psychologist explained why people with ADHD, bipolar disorder and so on, exists from an evolutionary perspective. It was in Swedish, otherwise I'd link it.
Apparently bipolars have the right mindset to become very productive programmers.