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I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
I don't see the bonus upside at all. Groupthink is seldom beneficial, and in this case part of what it translates into is creating trillions of currency units that will be given or lent out in a way that, as usual, skews towards favored interests.