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And leaving the jokes behind...
To learn by yourself, to think out of the box, to be curious about things, to be humble but to be confident, to think fast and to speak slow, to be nice, to think twice about something if you are not sure about it, to pay attention to the details...
And about coding skills... it doesn't matter that much. Whatever you want to do will be good, there is no saint grial and everything is good as long as you feel you can learn it correctly.
If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about?
Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you
Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
On a serious note, just in case you really are a newbie to the Interwebs: start by joining a discussion group (like this one) which matches up with the things you like (as you're a technical lead, CP is a reasonable bet, but there's something for everyone), and start talking to people.
Just remember to talk to people as if they were standing in front of you, and ignore people who don't return that courtesy.
And don't wait for permission to talk: we're all just faceless voices, so everyone is completely equal, with the same right to take part.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!