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Actually it went pretty well
When my manager has a problem with me he likes to tell me right away, the performance review was more of a summary
He also gives compliments where due. I've heard him say "that's awesome!" and "very nice!" and "well done!" a lot more often than bad comments
I don't get it. The job of a boss, manager, lead, whatever you call it, is to get the best out of his people.
All I'm getting here is that they make your life miserable, always acting upon the first change they get to get you.
Are managers really that bad at managing?
Performance reviews are a ritual meant to put you in your place. Despite pretense, PRs are not objective. They are rather an annual signal about how well your manager likes you. At a really top-rate company, you'd get continuous feedback from your manager and PRs would be unneeded. At other companies, it's a chance for your manager to retaliate for anything you did to annoy them, from being late on an impossible deadline to questioning their authority by suggesting alternative ideas. They can bring up stuff that happened years ago, or focus just on stuff they remember from the last couple months.
This can be frustrating, because sometimes there is useful feedback in a performance review. If you can detach, you can learn things that will help you work better with your colleagues. You can't completely blow off performance reviews. You have to take them seriously. But they're deeply, unrecoverably awful.
If you are both a superstar developer and an obsequious brown-noser, your performance review will go splendidly, because that's what bosses like. Show any spirit and nine bosses out of ten will retaliate. The Japanese apparently have a saying, "The nail that sticks up, gets hammered down." Here in the US we're supposed to be a meritocracy. I've worked in meritocratic companies with very nurturing managers. But meritocracy is a weak cultural impulse. You're always at the mercy of your manager. If they hire on a pointy-haired boss (I'm talking to YOU, Charlie), that tradition of meritocratic reward can evaporate.
Take a minute to get calm and detached before the review. Remind yourself not to react. Say, "Yes sir" and "Thank you sir". Don't whine to your buddies after ('cause that totally gets back to the boss). Let it out at home, where hopefully there's somebody who actually loves you. Remember, it's not about you. It's about your place in the hierarchy.
That hierarchy doesn't go very deep
We also don't have PR or HR or whatever.
It's just me, my team lead, and the general manager.
My team lead (who hates the word manager) is a part of the team. The only difference between him and me is that he has more responsibility so he has the final say (and I haven't heard him say "no" to anything I've suggested in the past year).
We had a really good talk. I wrote down the good things I did in the past year up front, but I didn't need my notes because he mentioned them all. I also wrote down some of my bad habits, but he didn't mention them (well, one was mentioned, but he laughed it off).
I even complimented him on his openness towards ideas, changes, and his team.
I guess I'm lucky to say that nothing you describe sounds familiar to me
Let it out at home, where hopefully there's somebody who actually loves you.
My cat Nika, but she only loves me when she wants food
Don't say anything like, "I'm ambitious and hope someday to rise to your level of incompetence!"
"I intend to live forever - so far, so good." Steven Wright
"I almost had a psychic girlfriend but she left me before we met." Also Steven Wright
"I'm addicted to placebos. I could quit, but it wouldn't matter." Steven Wright yet again.
It is interesting to note that the updates always seem to take longer than the original installation. However, once done I have found VS to be an excellent and complex product that has given me few problems. I run several add-ins, extensions, etc. and they all seem to work very well. The biggest issues I have with the IDE are all with the ridiculously, presumably fashion-conscious, UI which is doing the real Apple thing by putting form before function.
- I would love to change the world, but they won’t give me the source code.
"the debugger doesn't tell me anything because this code compiles just fine" - random QA comment
"Facebook is where you tell lies to your friends. Twitter is where you tell the truth to strangers." - chriselst
"I don't drink any more... then again, I don't drink any less." - Mike Mullikins uncle
Glad you liked it. I actually made that up myself last night, while my (real) missus was at work. I couldn't wait till she got home so I could tell someone. I said "I made up a joke tonight do you want to hear it" she replied "No please don't"