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I'm quiet and introverted as well, although I can be a bit more outgoing at work.
What works for me is to just listen in on conversations and just mingle as soon as I get a chance.
Like last week, two people I didn't know yet talked about buying a new monitor and backing up to OneDrive.
I bought two new monitors last year so I just chimed in and said "I can really recommend..., I bought two last year and they work great and the price is good for the quality you get."
From there the conversation went to OneDrive, which I also planned to use.
Other times, like when the conversation is about sports, I just keep quiet, unless people ask me if I'm into sports, at which point I answer them I'm completely totally not into sports.
What may help too is arriving at the office and just starting a random conversation by just throwing something out there... "Commute today was crazy, there was this guy who..." or "Who saw that documentary on TV last night?"
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but people will know who you are and they'll be more inclined to start a conversation with you.
Another good strategy is just standing up at around lunch time and asking, in general, "So who's going out to lunch?"
Maybe it's no one, maybe you make some new friends.

Good luck with your new job and with making some friends! Smile | :)

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