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But, after 47 years (just a beginner), we are still "WE". Fortunately, on the critical issues that typically break up marriages (finances, in particular) we are quite compatible.*
One place I lucked out: she was never taught to cook at home (nor allowed to), so she learned to cook from me - thus, it's all according to my taste and style. That, and all the money is all available to both of us - the moment you don't trust your mate is the time to find one you do trust. Since she's trusted to spend wisely, she does. I'm a minimalist. Alas, she likes bars and I hate them. If we agreed on everything, we'd be board.
Obviously, you've been at it a while longer than I, so the above is not advice - just opinions.
*The human interest stories (a/k/a Gossip), however, drive me insane
I must admit I was being a bit flippant. Marriages don't last long unless there is trust on both sides. And love and respect. However, there is some truth in it in that it is sometimes easier to bite your tongue and do as you're asked/told rather than have an argument.
All the works pensions go into my wife's bank account; the state pensions go into mine as she spends the larger part of the expenses. That way we get through life without any problems. Any large items are decided together; I leave her to buy her own clothes and she has the final say on mine, as she thinks I have no taste.
We are very comfortable in each other's company and almost never argue; and I am looking forward to a good few years to enjoy together.
«... thank the gods that they have made you superior to those events which they have not placed within your own control, rendered you accountable for that only which is within you own control For what, then, have they made you responsible? For that which is alone in your own power—a right use of things as they appear.» Discourses of Epictetus Book I:12
"I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004