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Lol. I made contact with old school friends and so on at first.. Now I live alone and am lonely. My wife and I are still married but she threw me out three years ago and I see her less than half time
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Sorry to hear that.
I'm not really one to speak about relationships (I'm very much single and that's what floats my boat), but based on what I keep reading, social media is NOT a viable alternative for "real" human contact - people are now said to have more "friends" than ever, but feel the loneliest they've ever felt. That's the irony.
As far as I'm concerned, there's nothing social about social media. Those are not your friends.
I suppose all I'm saying is don't stay on social media for the sake of countering any feeling of loneliness. Seek out real people for that. ![Rose | [Rose]](https://www.codeproject.com/script/Forums/Images/rose.gif)
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Sorry to hear that, man. If nothing there's always a spot online to argue with peeps about C++ vs Rust.
Jeremy Falcon
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Observe. Interaction is pointless. But you don't want to not see what's coming.
"Before entering on an understanding, I have meditated for a long time, and have foreseen what might happen. It is not genius which reveals to me suddenly, secretly, what I have to say or to do in a circumstance unexpected by other people; it is reflection, it is meditation." - Napoleon I
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Yeah I see what's coming....
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Christian Graus wrote: Is anyone else giving up on social media
The only constant "social" media for me is the lounge.
Facebook droped around 15 years ago, got into it again 10 years ago to find some lost people and try to get in contact with them and droped it again some months later. Last 10 years only there for 8 to 10 times in total because I searched for something concrete that was not offered in other places.
LinkedIn no account ever.
Twitter no account ever.
all other staff... no account. Might have had one in a couple of places (i.e. XING), but got deleted due innactivity.
M.D.V. 
If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about?
Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you
Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
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I'm with Marc, never joined any of them.
>64
Some days the dragon wins. Suck it up.
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I've only ever used FB but I have a very small friends list (less than 50) which consists solely of family and people I am in-person friends with. Everything I do and post is "private to friends only". We use it strictly to keep in touch with each other and share what's going on. We keep it rather civilized and avoid the subjects that we know, from our personal contact, tend to annoy each other.
That served me well for many years, but the past 6 months or so ... FB is getting way too aggressive in the ads they keep throwing in my feed. The content itself isn't bad, and I see why they think I might like this s*$t, given my activity but ... enough already. I can always tell when my "don't show me this crap" response to every ad starts to wear off every month or so. 3 weeks of a reasonable feed and then a week of having to block all the crap. Unfortunately, this is the simplest way to keep in touch with the folks who have moved away.
Be wary of strong drink. It can make you shoot at tax collectors - and miss.
Lazarus Long, "Time Enough For Love" by Robert A. Heinlein
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When I turned 50 FB decided I am a pervert and started sending me ads to make it with 20 year old girls. I shared a picture of people dressed in pumpkins and got a ban for nudity but I get ads for insane s3x toys. My wife threw me out 3 years ago and I held it together on the basis I visit every few weeks. I use FB to talk to her and used it this morning to apply to join a band. I stopped using FB seriously 10 years ago when they allowed a far right wing gang to stalk and threaten my kids. I just kind of prod at it now
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I have a collection of screenshots from Walmart ads of adult toys that would make a "insert person of choice here" blush. I think it's partly my fault though. I started screwing with their ad algorithms by clicking on everything to see what would happen. 
My latest is checking the Walmart price of Sriracha daily as it shows up in my feed to watch the prices and how that changes. Hint, up on the weekends, down during the week. Sidenote, I never shop at Walmart.
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Same. I scroll through and will see 3 ads and 5 suggested posts before I ever see one from someone on my friends list. And to make that worse, it's often days old so its often irrelevant. 
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I quit Twitter when it became X. But I keep Facebook. It helps me normalize my strange hobbies. I can show my wife a photo of somebody with a closet full of (24) unicycles and explain that only having 5 isn't a big deal. Same thing with my canoe/kayak addition. I also use it to connect to community events to get in and out.
As a general rule, I block any group that was shared in a post. This keeps my feed clean(er). I really only want original content from my friends and family.
Hogan
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That's genius  I have about $3000 worth of lego and 10 guitars but in my defence my wife stopped living with me years ago
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I have about $3000 worth of lego
Stop now. I started again during Covid and am now up to $30,000
I don't speak Idiot - please talk slowly and clearly
"I have sexdaily. I mean dyslexia. Fcuk!"
Driven to the arms of Heineken by the wife
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I live with my elderly dad, not my wife. Lego is my one stress relief. Building the AT&T walker right now. My estimate is low because I started buying knock off lego, mostly because I got sick of all the missing pieces. Also I can get some out of print sets, like the Death Star.
I have about 70k worth of vinyl
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I loved Lego as a kid, and keep reading about adults still using them as a hobby. I've often thought to myself, wouldn't it be fun if I went back to that myself.
Andy_L_J wrote: and am now up to $30,000
...but now you've singlehandedly convinced me not to go down that path. 
Years ago I used to play The Sims 2, not for the gameplay, but because of the building opportunities the game engine presented. I had houses that had such design complexity they pushed the game, I believe, to its limits, but even then, I thought it was too restrictive. I could never get into Sims 3, and never tried Sims 4. "Real" home building software is just too complex for my liking.
I think there's a real need for some creative outlet. Lego might fulfill that, to some extent, but it just gets crazy expensive if you're serious about it.
I've seen some software decades ago that let you work with virtual Lego, so to speak, but found the controls to be way too difficult to be useful.
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Yes, but I'm very proactive in regards of who I follow and I use the block feature a lot.
I will often start following someone for a few weeks/months and then just block them after a while.
I'm very much left leaning, never had an issue with twitter; maybe I'm just not an activist.
I'm still on twitter. I don't follow a lot of political things, so I don't get the crazy stuff.
It's still a good tool for keeping track of the general news instead of needed to browse a dozen of different news sites.
I'm using Facebook a lot less than before, seems my feed is mostly advertisement these days or unrelated accounts and only a handful of people in my (real life) friend list is active.
Same for Instagram, I only follow a few people with similar interests (food and travel) and maybe 4, 5 local celebrities.
Reddit is probably the only "social media" I use frequently (mostly for food and travel and other hobbies).
CI/CD = Continuous Impediment/Continuous Despair
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Maximilien wrote: I'm very much left leaning, never had an issue with twitter; maybe I'm just not an activist.
Wow, you must keep it to yourself. I was banned for being left wing BEFORE Elon took over, then again after.
Maximilien wrote: Reddit is probably the only "social media" I use frequently (mostly for food and travel and other hobbies).
They banned me in a day LOL. So I never went back.
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For me this Lounge is the only social media I post to. I have a FB account but have never posted to it. I only use it to look up other people - and that less than once per year. I only went to LinkedIn to connect with old colleagues - and the only one I kept in touch with has since died (COVID) so I'll drop off that soon.
- I would love to change the world, but they won’t give me the source code.
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LinkedIn is good, as far as I am concerned. In a moment of madness a few weeks ago I joined Facebook, and I am getting forty or fifty aggravating emails/notifications a day. 
I am quitting today.
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you can turn off email notifications. I only look at linkedin when I need work
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Christian Graus wrote: Is anyone else giving up on social media.
I gave up a few years ago. I have a FB account that I check a few times a year...never had a Twatter account and have no interest in it...don't do linkedin either.
CP is my social media!
"Go forth into the source" - Neal Morse
"Hope is contagious"
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Christian Graus wrote: Twitter permanently banned me for being politely left wing
Find that hard to believe man. It's more open now than it used to be.
Christian Graus wrote: and Facebook has me on constant bans because they push things I don't agree with onto my feed and I try to politely discuss them from time to time
FB on a downward spiral. They ban everyone for sneezing.
Christian Graus wrote: Add a constantly flow of fake accounts trying to romance scam me, and I'm pretty much done
Yeah man, totally agree social media has gotten worse. People forgot how to be people ya know. Too much time inside.
Long time no see btw.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote: Find that hard to believe man. It's more open now than it used to be.
No, it's more right leaning. It allows more violent hate speech. I got banned for politely telling hate pages the truth about trans kids (for example that they can't access surgery). I didn't argue. I simply corrected hate, There's TONS of Nazis, I ran into open Nazis all the time. That's who it's more open to
Jeremy Falcon wrote: FB on a downward spiral. They ban everyone for sneezing.
Basically. I've had bans for saying men are silly. I got a ban for saying rape is bad. Hate speech against straight white men seems to be what they aggressively target the most. I reported someone openly saying they want to kill all gays and FB said that was allowed
Jeremy Falcon wrote: Yeah man, totally agree social media has gotten worse. People forgot how to be people ya know. Too much time inside.
The world is just less safe. I get scam calls all the time. I lecture my old dad all the time on ways to stay safe
Jeremy Falcon wrote: Long time no see btw.
Thanks. It just occurred to me there's a place I can chat to people and not get banned
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Christian Graus wrote: No, it's more right leaning. It allows more violent hate speech. I got banned for politely telling hate pages the truth about trans kids (for example that they can't access surgery). I didn't argue. I simply corrected hate, There's TONS of Nazis, I ran into open Nazis all the time. That's who it's more open to
Go figure. From my perspective, it allows silly nonsense and over-sensitivity and shuns anyone that has an opposing opinion. Before its recent backlash it got really bad. They've backed off a little. Just so we're on the same page, I don't define "hate speech" as not using someone's pronouns. Not sure who you consider a Nazi btw, assuming we're intelligent enough to not trust the media to tell us who is.
Christian Graus wrote: Basically. I've had bans for saying men are silly. I got a ban for saying rape is bad. Hate speech against straight white men seems to be what they aggressively target the most. I reported someone openly saying they want to kill all gays and FB said that was allowed
Well, to be fair... that is racist. Not that I think people should be censored at all as I believe in freedom of speech, mind you.
Christian Graus wrote: The world is just less safe. I get scam calls all the time. I lecture my old dad all the time on ways to stay safe
At least we agree on this.  The question is... who's to blame for this? Please don't say Trump though; we're supposed to be smarter than the brainwashing TV. I think a lot of this stems from us spending less time outside and talking to other humans, as simple as that may seem.
Christian Graus wrote: Thanks. It just occurred to me there's a place I can chat to people and not get banned
Well, it's CP so you know... gotta weed out the um... bad stuff. Some people on here still only want to spread poopyness. Banning solves nothing though. Maybe. I've blocked people before that were just looking to argue, and that's like a form a banning I guess. But for people that can hold a conversation, it only takes humanity backwards.
Jeremy Falcon
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