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Been there done that...
Do yourself a favour, and get to understand what your wife and mother really want.
There is an excellent book written by Susan Forward, called "Toxic parents"
ISBN - 0 - 553 - 38140 - 7
This will give you a good insight, but needs you to be mentally strong and make choices that you can live with.
Best of luck.
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i read your story.i am unmarried but i saw same situation at my relatives family.
as many indians have joint families so this problem is comman.
i will suggest u few thinks.
a)Send your mother at some holy or picnic places for a few days or u & your wife make plan for tour.
by changing your daily routines & going for the tours your mind will be get fresh.
b) tell your mother & wife that their current behaviour will directly affect your job.
c) for u just start the day with love,fill the day with love & end the day with love.
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//U are not he only person facing such situation & what ur doing is i think what
//a normal person might have done in his life. I strongly belive that Time is the
//solution for any dam big problem , So pls be patient divert ur attention to
//some other work.
//Look when people grow old they are insecure about their importence
//Young people are more egoistic.
//If both get their importence & ego satisfied then the problem is solved.
//let your mom feel that she is important
//make your wifes ego satisfied , take her out some time
//One best solution make your wife to do JOB
//One thing i can do is to pray god for your family
//Can do " Gayatri Yagna "
Vikas Amin
Embin Technology
Bombay
vikas.amin@embin.com
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Hi, I have a question about Microsoft exam. Currently I got MCP which exam from an institute that have a partnership with PeasonVUE (Microsoft authorize testing center). At the time that I get an exam I have to pay for Microsoft in order to have an exam. Now this institute is change far away from my hometown. But I need to earn more certificate but there is no authorize testing center near the place that I live. My question is, Is it possible for me to pay an exam fee for Microsoft online and I could do my own exam at home via my internet connection at home??? Please give me an advice in order to make a preparation for an exam.
A thousand mile of journey, begin with the first step.
APO-CEDC
Save Children Norway-Cambodia Office
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As far as I know, you cannot take MS exams from home. You have to go to an authorized testing center.
Mads
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Thank you very much for your comment. So I have to travel to microsoft authorize testing center whether it is far away from my hometown.
MCP
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I suggest sending your question to mcphelp@microsoft.com.
"One must learn from the bite of the fire to leave it alone." - Native American Proverb
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FOR ASP.NET Programmer in MUMBAI , INDIA:
Educational Qualification : BE , MCA
Programming Languages : ASP.NET , JavaScript , HTML ,
Tools : VS.NET , Enteprise Manager , SQL Query Analyser.
Databases : MS SQL , Access
Others :
a) Strong OOPS knowledge.
b) Good understanding of the various phases in SDLC
c) Understanding of the 3 - Tier Architecture and its implementation.
d) Excellent Communication Skills.
e) Strong Grasping power.
The key objectives of your role would be (ASP.NET Programmer)
1) Provide technical ownership for subcomponents (code, functional validity and quality) of an identified effort.
2) Be a part of the entire project effort.
3) Perform complex software development tasks within appropriate schedule, task, and quality guidelines set in conjunction with the Lead Analyst /Project Manager of the project.
4) Involve in activities like Database Design , Class Design and various design stages and make suitable contributions.
5) Apply OOPS concepts to the Developed code.
6) Speedy Problem solving / error debugging
INTERESTED CANDIDATES MAIL YOUR RESUME TO ASHUTOSH on jobs@cyberbackoffice.com
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Mr. Mister wrote:
Programming Languages : ASP.NET , JavaScript , HTML ,
ASP.NET is not a programming language. VB.NET and C# are. ASP.NET is a framework.
Mr. Mister wrote:
Strong Grasping power.
You want someone with big muscles ?
Mr. Mister wrote:
Provide technical ownership for subcomponents (code, functional validity and quality) of an identified effort.
ROTFL - what does this MEAN ?
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
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We will be Interested, please contact me.
Tapas Shome
System Software Engineer
Keen Computer Solutions
1408 Erin Street
Winnipeg, Manitoba
Canada R3E 2S8
ww.keencomputer.com
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As it happens, I am an ASP.NET programmer, and I do accept contract work, but while I am in Las Vegas right now, I am based in Australia. I was more pointing out inconsistencies in your ad than applying, but if you want to offer me work, by all means, I'm listening....
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I created a new WMI classes in WMI namespace by using the mof file . MOF file have the following content.
[WMI,
guid("{c74aece4-468b-4113-b006-0caadc968ac4}")]
class DSM_PATH_INFO {
[WmiDataId(1)] uint32 pID;
[WmiDataId(2)] boolean active;
};
class WMI_LIST_INSTANCE
{
[WmiDataId(1)] uint32 NumberOfinstance;
[WmiDataId(2),
Description("Array of DSM_PATH_INFO classes"),
WmiSizeIs("NumberOfinstnce")
] DSM_PATH_INFO pathList[];
};
class DSM_WMI_METHOD
{
[WmiMethodId(1),
Static, Implemented,
Description("Get names for Given GroupId")
] void DsmGetPathsForGroup(
[in] uint32 GroupId,
[out] WMI_LIST_INSTANCE pList
);
};
these are the class i have in WMI namespace .I am using COM API to call a method "DsmGetPathsForGroup" in DSM_WMI_METHOD class and then I am getting "WMI_LIST_INSTANCE" instance as a output.but i dont know how to access the members in "WMI_LIST_INSTANCE" instnce and then I dont know how to access the pathList[] array in "WMI_LIST_INSTNCE" instnce.
Any help would be great.because of this problem my work was stuck.
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I am Programming for a Desktop File Search Software in Pocket 2003.
I use .NET CF.
How Can I Get Text from A Pocket Office File?
Please Help Me,Thank !
zzzzzzz
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I am a Certified Microsoft Techie with 10 years of experience in various Ms Technologies returned from US a year ago. Recently I joined one top CMM5 level company in India as an Architect. I have more than 12 years experience in IT field. I have played various roles like Lead developer, BA and Tech lead. Have fair exposure to project management techniques. My current company wants me to report to Project managers with 5-6 years experience, who are technically feeble and have fair Project management skills. That is hurting my professional pride/ego.
I am just wondering about organizational hierarchy in other companies. I.e. Do all Architects need to work under PMs?
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Project Management and Architect are two different roles.
Yes, architects report to project managers in the normal course of events.
This is "a good thing", as they have different goals. The architect's job is to design the right approach to the system and then see that it is followed. The project manager's job is to balance business results desired vs. capability, cost and time to deliver them.
Yes, project managers have poor-to-fair project management skills and feeble technical skills in the normal course of events. (That doesn't make it right, it's just a recognition of reality.)
So, unless you are the project manager AND the architect, you can plan on most projects being managed by people who lack the skills to do the job right.
Be happy when you get a good project manager, treat them right, and do great work for them. That way, they will insist on you for their next project.
David Wendelken
davewendelken@earthlink.net
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With a very nice company in Arlington Va, feel free to send me your resume. The companies name is Interstate hotels and resorts.
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Hi,
I am actually working in an internationnal company in VB.NET application
in the position of responsible in development project and small team .
I am Microsoft certified in WinXp and VB.NET
Actually preparing to my next exam to MCAD and the goal of MCSD.
I am well organised and serious.
My work actually in the current company is quite calm and I am looking for small project I can work on during my spare time, this with 2 main objectives
- be able to manage a project through internet
- discover some other area
I do not know if I could help you in your task but who knows
please not that I speak fluently english
experience is made also from others
Thanks to contact me if any interrest at serge.calderara@tiscali.fr
Thanks for help
Regards
______________________________
Serge Calderara
MCP(XP & VB.NET)
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Hi
Anyone knows any certifications for VC++. I think microsoft is not conducting VC++ Certification exams. I want to do some certification in C++/VC++/MFC. Just give me some trigger.
Thanks
JP
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Before the .NET certifications, the MCSD used to be either VB or C++. I think that all of those exams have expired now tho.
Steve Maier, MCSD MCAD
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I have been working as a computer programmer for five years. To be specific, I do system analysis, trouble shooting and provide software support.
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PJP_PJP wrote:
I think microsoft is not conducting VC++ Certification exams.
And haven't been for many years now. Check their site for the latest information.
"One must learn from the bite of the fire to leave it alone." - Native American Proverb
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All of these reasons describe either experiences I have had or adverts I have seen, sometimes slightly exaggerated for dramatic effect. Also, some of this client behaviour could be construed as being quite reasonable depending on the context.
1. They interview you before getting budget approval, and then tell you afterwards that the budget has not been approved.
2. They set technical tests and get their own answers wrong.
3. They ask you what your weaknesses are. Would Tony Blair tell you what his weaknesses are? He was asked a similar question on the BBC Today programme and answered: “that’s for me to know and you to find out.”
4. They give as a reason for rejecting you after interview that you do not have adequate experience in skill X when you admitted prior to interview that you didn’t.
5. They give as a reason for rejecting you after interview that you do not have adequate experience in skill X when it wasn’t asked for in the first place.
6. You are a contractor and you have a gap of a few months on your CV and it’s known that the IT market is in a downturn. They ask what you’ve been doing? Trying to find work of course!
7. They hold interviews when they know that the job will be filled internally.
8. Human Resources (aka Human Remains) interview you and ask you lots of stupid questions, none of which have any relevance to whether you can do the job.
9. The job is a contract position and they insist on knowing your career aims for the next 20 years.
10. You have 10 years’ solid IT industry experience, yet they insist on your having a 1st class honours degree from a top 10 university and 3 A’s at A-Level before they’ll even look at you.
11. You have 10 years’ solid IT industry experience, yet they insist on your having a 1st class honours degree from Oxford, Cambridge or Imperial. So those who graduated from Harvard magna cum laude need not apply then?
12. They ask you to give them an idea on how to proceed with the problem that is forcing them to look for a contractor in the first place. In other words, they want free consultancy as part of the interview. But once they’ve got the consultancy they hire someone else.
13. They advertise a job that specifies that the candidate must have at least 3 years’, but no more than 10 years’, experience in C++. In other words, those aged over 35 need not apply.
14. They insist that you have 2 years’ commercial experience in a new software technology that has yet to be released.
15. You are rejected because you do not fit the “company culture.” In other words, you are too old.
16. They say you must be able to write bug-free code as a matter of course. So their current software is bug-free then?
17. They get the agency to give you a technical test over the phone. You pass this and they invite you to their offices. They never set eyes on you but they get the agency to set you a written technical test. However, afterwards, you receive no feedback whatsoever, despite numerous attempts at follow-ups.
18. You have an interview on a Tuesday. After the interview they tell you that they have more candidates to see and they won’t be making a decision until Friday. Wrong! They’ve already made a decision – that you won’t be one of the candidates they’ll choose on Friday. If they want you they’ll make you an offer within 24 hours, either later that day or the next morning, regardless of whether they’ve got others to see.
19. They think that if you haven’t got commercial experience in skill X then you can’t do it at all.
20. You have been a professional programmer for 10 years, but you don’t have commercial experience in the latest skill, X. Yet they treat you as though you are a brand new programmer with no commercial experience at all.
21. They ask for a shopping-list of a dozen skills. You are able to land the contract anyway. But after you’ve completed it you’ve only had to use one or two skills on the shopping-list.
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Anonymous wrote:
4. They give as a reason for rejecting you after interview that you do not have adequate experience in skill X when you admitted prior to interview that you didn’t.
Perhaps they were hoping that you had more than enough experience in skill Y that would have made up for the deficiencies in skill X.
Anonymous wrote:
6. You are a contractor and you have a gap of a few months on your CV and it’s known that the IT market is in a downturn. They ask what you’ve been doing? Trying to find work of course!
It's not unreasonable to take time off between jobs to take coursework, get certified, etc.
Anonymous wrote:
7. They hold interviews when they know that the job will be filled internally.
This is part of being an EOE.
Anonymous wrote:
10. You have 10 years’ solid IT industry experience, yet they insist on your having a 1st class honours degree from a top 10 university and 3 A’s at A-Level before they’ll even look at you.
Nothing wrong with that. Your industry experience cannot be measured. A diploma and certification(s) can.
Anonymous wrote:
12. They ask you to give them an idea on how to proceed with the problem that is forcing them to look for a contractor in the first place. In other words, they want free consultancy as part of the interview. But once they’ve got the consultancy they hire someone else.
This is quite normal. I've heard plenty of stories about folks getting hired on the spot because one of the engineers in the interview threw a real-life problem out on the table and the candidate fixed it right there.
Anonymous wrote:
14. They insist that you have 2 years’ commercial experience in a new software technology that has yet to be released.
Because they want you to help them get to that point. This was quite the thing to see in the newspapers when .Net first came out. I too was curious as to how folks were to have any experience with such a new technology. It's called learning it on your own.
Anonymous wrote:
15. You are rejected because you do not fit the “company culture.” In other words, you are too old.
A lot of companies like to hire young folks because they can get roughly the same amount of work for less money.
"Ideas are a dime a dozen. People who put them into action are priceless." - Unknown
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Your answer to point 15 isn't entirely correct - young folks tend to put up with being pushed around and experienced hands know bs when they smell it.
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