you can change below properties
DataGridView.RowHeadersWidth
DataGridView.ColumnHeadersHeight
DataGridViewRow.Height
DataGridViewColumn.Width
for example :
Private Sub Button5_Click(ByVal sender As Object, _
ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles Button5.Click
Dim row As DataGridViewRow = dataGridView.Rows(0)
row.Height = 15
End Sub